We need to give up one of our most cherished beliefs — that there is something wrong with us, that we are bad, inadequate, somehow defective and lacking in goodness. Disciplining ourselves, rejecting ourselves, beating ourselves, leads us farther away from this goodness, not closer to it...
If I have an idea about how I should be (more compassionate, for example), and I go through the process of rejecting myself every time I don’t meet this standard, I will never find that compassion,” the Buddhist teacher Sharon Salzberg writes. One kind of emotional process cannot possibly produce another kind of emotional process. Rejection will not lead to compassion. Only compassion can lead to compassion. Rejection will only lead to rejection."
— Alan Lew, This Is Real and You Are Completely Unprepared: The Days of Awe as a Journey of Transformation
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