re: Official June 2013 Due Date Buddies (Pt. 3)

Quoting Ayzya:" lmao.. well if thats the case, i'd have to work like heck to get it out then. I dunno, this may sound ... [snip!] ... he doesn't shape up. If he doesn't see me struggling so much he won't really give me the credit that i'll deserve you know? "

Oh he could see I was in MAJOR pain! lol still doesn't help in any situation when hes being an ass though. I just tell him IM the one who went through 18 hours of labor not him! lol But hey if you wanna do it all natural YOU GO FOR IT MAMA! lol Im a weakling and dont think I could ever do it.. like I said my pain tolerance is 0 haha This baby is so far down already I get almost teary eyed when I have to get up or down or even have to pick up anything off the floor so labor is gonna be complete hell it looks like. I'll endure till shes here though..no other choice  

lol I hear you girlfriend on the laying low thing. The pressure I feel on my bladder is terrible! I wish this wasn't my first time because i'm just so afraid of losing her that every pain I get just freaks me out. I know everybody keeps saying it's normal, prolly RLP or whatever, but I dunno. The fact I can't exercise and stuff stresses me out because i'm worried I won't have the strength to push if I have to continue to be on rest. I already have a weak core as it is, how will I do during labor? I also don't know what BH's feel like so who knows, maybe somebody like me is better off doing an epi for the first time. I went to a psychic who I thought was really good and she told me my first baby was going to have some complications but that i'd have two more and it'd be much easier. lol..

Quoting Ayzya:" lol I hear you girlfriend on the laying low thing. The pressure I feel on my bladder is terrible! I wish ... [snip!] ... and she told me my first baby was going to have some complications but that i'd have two more and it'd be much easier. lol.."

Oh you'll do fine. I get scared sometimes because she feels like shes gonna just pop out at any moment. Our bodies are made to carry the presure so just try to realx. I NEVER exercised with my first and am not with this one and I didn't have any complications or anyting. I did walk 5+ miles the day I went into labor but thats all the exercise I ever recieved..I prob would not have done that if my MIL would not have told me to go walk and we just kept walking, and walking, and walking..still didn't progress any till after I got to the hospital and they even had to break my water. So no worries hun.. I wouldn't trust anything a physic says but thats just me. I was told up and down that this one was gonna be a boy by all the "tells" and such and how our family history lays out on both sides..and nope its a FULL girl! lol so I completely believe that if somethings ment to happen there is nothing we can do to stop it or change it. Just go with what your gut is. If you think somthings wrong, or feels wrong, dont let anyone tell you different! Keep getting more opinions, go in as many times as you need for your piece of mine. Thats what we pay these ppl big bucks for!   And we can usually help with any questions you might have or can tell you to go in for sure.

That's the reason I love you ladies. It's really wonderful to have this support group. There is so much to learn and share and nobody better to do it with then your due date buddies.  

does anyone else feel kicks in their A-$$ area??
lol i don't remember this from last time and it is making me feel like she's gdamn upside down again. or rather right side up (aka breech)

i feel 90% of kicks down on my bladder at also feeling like she's punching my smurf from the inside .
 

Quoting Dr. Angelface:" does anyone else feel kicks in their A-$$ area?? lol i don't remember this from last time and it is ... [snip!] ... up (aka breech) i feel 90% of kicks down on my bladder at also feeling like she's punching my smurf from the inside .  "

I do! DD was breech at my anatomy scan and I'm assuming she still is because all the kicks I feel are way down at the bottom of my uterus. With my son he was head down early on and all my kicks with him were at the top.

Quoting Dr. Angelface:" does anyone else feel kicks in their A-$$ area?? lol i don't remember this from last time and it is ... [snip!] ... up (aka breech) i feel 90% of kicks down on my bladder at also feeling like she's punching my smurf from the inside .  "

yup! Especially if I lay on my back at night. I try to sleep on my right side but I know I've flipped to my back when she starts kicking and going crazy. Sometimes she kicks so hard at my bladder that it wakes me up and I rush to the potty to pee..

Eh... My first was weird feeling contractions so it wasn't "pain" but I started to freak out during the bloody show part so they have me stadol as well. I was in another world. Tuned everyone out, focused on the contractions and I was fine. No epidural until they said csect. Even then I was kinda freakjnv out over the spinal needle but I didn't feel anything. I tried w my 2nd to be "afraid" of the spinal but again didn't feel any pain. My 2nd was sorta same- contractions just not "painful". Idk it was more like my face would flush, belly would tighten and that's all I had. "Pain" is a relative term I guess. New mamas don't go in thinking omg it's gonna f'ing hurt I better prepare way ahead bc ur body might process it differently. Mine did. W my first all I did was rock side to side bed rail to bed rail completely zoned out to myself. I wanted the window opened and only focused on someone's face long enough to bitch him out for covering me up when I was stripping.- yeah..., modesty went right out the window. MIL was by my side holding my hand the entire time and talking softly but it felt like I was in that room alone. Nothing phased me. My 2nd was diff. She was PTL and I was stuck in the ER wing so my focus was on stopping labor, settling her down, wasn't comfy, FIL just died, etc. the csect for dd2 though was easy for the most part though. This time... I'm going in w same expectation as dd2. Don't want pain meds but not opposed if I am really hurting. I doubt it though. If dd1 was crowning and I was fine I can't see wanting an epo w Aaron.

Quoting queso +2curdles(24):" hey you! A familiar face! I'm erin on FB if you are confused.  "

Hey you back! I finally came back over here, my phone won't load baby-gaga at all so I have to actually be on my computer to chat over here.

Quoting DifferentDay:" Eh... My first was weird feeling contractions so it wasn't "pain" but I started to freak out during the ... [snip!] ... not opposed if I am really hurting. I doubt it though. If dd1 was crowning and I was fine I can't see wanting an epo w Aaron."

I totally zoned out with my second and third   I did the rocking thing too, just back and forth over and over. As long as I was rocking and relaxed I wasn't in any pain. My first was horribly painful though, I was the woman screaming in triage lol. I didn't know about the fear/pain cycle that time though, and I was very afraid.

My birth plan this time (if my placenta moves and everything goes well) is a home birth, or hotel birth if we end up moving out of the midwives 'area' when we move next month.

If not my midwife will continue to follow me and will be allowed to be present for my section, which is so comforting to know.

i wake up on my back every single morning. if i wake up i flip to my side but always end up on my back!! ugh

Quoting Dr. Angelface:" does anyone else feel kicks in their A-$$ area?? lol i don't remember this from last time and it is ... [snip!] ... up (aka breech) i feel 90% of kicks down on my bladder at also feeling like she's punching my smurf from the inside .  "

holy cow yes!!! I am laying here trying to sleep but the little monster is going flippys or something and it feels like he is kicking mu insides that connect to the back end lol.. He is so darn low at time it feels like he is right above my pubic bone.. Needless to say he's going nuts right now and I can't fall asleep

so do you think it is weird if I call and ask the hospital if I can have a walk through of the rooms I might be in? I kinda like to know where I will be. And if I at least meet the nurses once I will remember faces.. I get really scared of doctor to the point I passed out once.. That and I am thinking of calling and getting into parenting classes. Any tips on good books or anything for a single mom to be?

Not weird for a first time mama. We did a free birthing class w dd1 that ended in a tour of the maternity floor. Hubby happened to be doing his cna clinicals there at the time of labor so all the nurses were real nice. Same w dd2. When we moved here he was doing his Lpn clinicals at this hosp so I knew the nurses, the techs, all the students who were his classmates, etc. even his buddy's bro worked in the cafeteria so he brought my meals. This time new hosp n don't kno anyone. I don't want a tour or even a birthing class. couldn't hurt u though. Might help put u at ease. If ur so anxious w drs and stuff I'd make sure u say something to the nurses when ur admitted so they can offer u drugs if u want to help. The best thing? Breathe. Start getting anxious, slow your breathing. Focus on happy thoughts. But slow deliberate breaths help me. I hate hosps. I have panic attacks walking into the ER. If I start shaking I focus on a tile or wall spot and breathe slow for a min. Then I'm calm and able to listen. But yes interventions like drugs like the epi can slow labor. Not bc it wants to just same way as a sterile hosp setting can do. Ur not relaxed it just numbs u can't feel when to push n they can be ineffective (the pushing). Sometimes the drug wears off or it's too late to get one, etc. if u are progressing fine w.o I'd say go as long as you can then before wanting it right away. U might surprise urself how much u can handle in THAT situation, only   I hate needles, pain, terrified of tearing, being cut, etc. but once ur in that zone everything seems trivial. Epi what?! Afterwards u might say "wow nowhere near as bad as everyone says" lol u could be a lucky one and have baby so fast u don't have time to over think it all. Not trying to sound mean or w.e but since u r a first time mom give urself some credit. Ur body knows what to do even if u don't. All the researching is gonna drive ya crazy w worry. Try to relax. Imagine how you'd like if to go, but try to be flexible and realistic. If I knew now how it would be back then, I'd have saved myself a lot of unnecessary worrying and planning. Kinda like... I'd have figured this or that out if we crossed that bridge. Anyone else feel similar their 2nd+ time around?? Find that ur so much more laid back about it all?

Short update- dd2 has a nasty stomach bug. Put a bid in for $28k on 6-7 acres, guy countered w $32k, signing papers tomorrow   and picking out the house plan too. They said we could be in it by April!!! Kids are excited, we're excited lol thinking our 2nd female bunny could be preggo too. So been watching her. Other is a great mama. Talking to my mom again after a month. What else? Oh yeah... I'm flipping huge already!! Getting outta chairs, bed, couch, floor is a chore. 26wks tday (mon).