I'm 17 & my boyfriend 20.We are together having a baby. due dec.31. i dont know what to do. we argue he gets mad and just blows up. NEVER hits me! because i wont allow it. Every1 our family is like trying to give advice bt always get in the middle and kinda ruin things more.. I'm fusterated, mad, angry and cares for him bt idk if hes like tht because the babys comming and hes nervous and doesnt know how to express it.. Bt idk? I'm struggling to keep myself together and i hate when people say leave him, bkuz our families dont get along, & your stupid for being in tht position,,ETC. well any advice would help me & just need some encouragement and other perspectives.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama♥Sweetpea:</b>" Why would you want your kid in that kind of situation? Honestly it's time you start thinking about your child and that kind of situation is so unhealthy."</blockquote>
Have you tried talking to him? Maybe you are right and he is nervous, but that isn't a good situation to bring a baby into so i'd talk and find out what he feels and see if he can explain what makes him go off like that.
You seem to think it's ok for him to blow up when he's angry because he doesn't hit you. Sorry to burst your bubble darlin, but it's still wrong. Usually situations like these get worse over time and escalate to physical abuse. It's time to think about what's best for you and your baby and reevaluate your relationship and where your life is headed.
I know you're seventeen, and the words "Grow up" hold little to no value for you. BEing in that situation for an extended amount of time will truly damage your child. Give him a chance to get his smurf together, and if he doesnt, as much as it will hurt, leave him.
There are better ways to resolve conflict than yellling and fighting.
<blockquote><b>Quoting That Black Kid™:</b>" I know you're seventeen, and the words "Grow up" hold little to no value for you. BEing in that situation ... [snip!] ... and if he doesnt, as much as it will hurt, leave him. There are better ways to resolve conflict than yellling and fighting."</blockquote>
You are valuable, dont ever for a second think its okay for you to be belittled and yelled at just because there is no physical contact...Im extremely saddened that you are accepting that just because it is seemingly better than the alternative.
i agree with everyone else, your not in a healthy relationship and bringing a child into an unhealthy environment because you put up with it since you don't want to leave is being selfish, put your child first, not yourself. and i just want to add... just because he doesn't hit you because you don't allow it or what ever, will not stop him from doing it in the future, no one ever expects to get hit by someone they love or "love"
I know ima do what's best for my bby... bt wat I don't understand is how every1 says they won't put up wit it annd end up doin it.. I'm tryin to make it work bt I think iys both of our families gettin n our heads kuz before he wasn't acting like this and he thinks the babbys not his all because his mom says its not wen I never left the house n he was over my house every day