re: Was this a dumb move?

<blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" How? It's just fact. A matter as important as his child, is something that you just should know. "</blockquote>




Obviously he doesn't think that way. It's unfortunate yes. But y prolong the process just to be a bitter bitch?

<blockquote><b>Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Nicole Mclovin:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ƒideℓis ... [snip!] ... ad my EX and he didn't show up."</blockquote> Not telling him because "he should know" sounds bitter as hell.  "</blockquote>




No it's not my job to babysit him and making sure he knows. If he was worried about it he would have found out for himself

<blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" Same. My guy got the same notifications as i did, wasn't my job to remind him of dates, wasn't my job ... [snip!] ... doesn't happen). If it was at the top of his priorities (as a child should be) he would already know these things."</blockquote>


I just want it to be over it. I wish he'd sign his rights over and leave us alone. I'm really afraid of this guy and what he could possibly do to my child.

<blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" Same. My guy got the same notifications as i did, wasn't my job to remind him of dates, wasn't my job ... [snip!] ... doesn't happen). If it was at the top of his priorities (as a child should be) he would already know these things."</blockquote>




No one said it was your job. But who wants to prolong the process? Unless of course you want Him to look horrible in the courts eyes because your bitter.

Smdh. Single moms these day make me ashamed to know that I'm going to be one,

Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:" <blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" How? It's just fact. A matter as important as his ... [snip!] ... Obviously he doesn't think that way. It's unfortunate yes. But y prolong the process just to be a bitter bitch?"

It's not being a bitter bitch.


But i guess in your mind that makes someone a bitter bitch, which is your own opinion, so is what it is. It's just sad, when the REAL issue is the irresponsible father who can't get his smurf together for his own child.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Had my 10/10/10 baby!:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" Same. My guy got the same notifications as i did, ... [snip!] ... I wish he'd sign his rights over and leave us alone. I'm really afraid of this guy and what he could possibly do to my child."</blockquote>

Exactly. So you did the RIGHT thing by telling him. Don't listen to what these (what sounds like) bitter women if you want the process to be done and over with.

Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:" <blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" Same. My guy got the same notifications as i did, ... [snip!] ... in the courts eyes because your bitter. Smdh. Single moms these day make me ashamed to know that I'm going to be one,"

Are you serious?
She's not making him look that way, HE'S making HIMSELF look that way.
If she wouldn't have reminded him, he wouldn't have been there- making himself look bad-- NOT HER FAULT. it's just logic, c'mon now.
By telling him, she now takes away the possibility of that one aspect making him 'look bad'.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Nicole Mclovin:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... No it's not my job to babysit him and making sure he knows. If he was worried about it he would have found out for himself"</blockquote>




Bitter.   it's. Sad really.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" Same. My guy got the same notifications as i did, ... [snip!] ... in the courts eyes because your bitter. Smdh. Single moms these day make me ashamed to know that I'm going to be one,"</blockquote>


How does that make her bitter? He's an irresponsible moron.

Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:" <blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" Same. My guy got the same notifications as i did, ... [snip!] ... in the courts eyes because your bitter. Smdh. Single moms these day make me ashamed to know that I'm going to be one,"

Although I'm not a single mom, I do see what my SO goes through with his dead beat Baby Momma. It's not all gems and roses, you see. We're trying to get sole custody of my SD because her mother pawns her off on anyone, it's not a stable environment, and it's not safe. Just because you're a parent doesn't mean you give a smurf about your kid. Some people could care less, maybe her BD is abusive, maybe her BD doesn't know how to take care of their child, who are you to judge?

<blockquote><b>Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" Same. My guy got the same notifications as i did, ... [snip!] ... in the courts eyes because your bitter. Smdh. Single moms these day make me ashamed to know that I'm going to be one,"</blockquote>

I do want him to look horrible in front of the court. You are making me feel even worse for letting him know the date. He is mentally unstable, court documented threatening my child's life, and have proof of my LO injured in his care in a way he can not explain to me.

I want supervised visitation by someone other than his mom but that's all he wants.

My daughter isn't safe in her care. I know this for a fact. If the court does or not that's what I'm afraid of.

<blockquote><b>Quoting breathingchaos:</b>" Although I'm not a single mom, I do see what my SO goes through with his dead beat Baby Momma. It's ... [snip!] ... could care less, maybe her BD is abusive, maybe her BD doesn't know how to take care of their child, who are you to judge?"</blockquote>



What the hell are you talking about? You're further proving my point that the process need to be done and over with. And she said she WANTS that. So she did the right thing by telling him.

Quoting Had my 10/10/10 baby!:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ƒideℓis ϟ:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... all he wants. My daughter isn't safe in her care. I know this for a fact. If the court does or not that's what I'm afraid of."

Ignore her.
Do what you have to do in the best interest of your child.
People are too quick to judge, too quick to call someone a "bitter bitch", when they don't even know the whole story.

Hopefully his true colors show in the court and you never have to worry about your child's safety with him.

Don't worry about how prepared he is or isn't, just make sure that you are as prepared as possible.

Good luck.

<blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" Ignore her. Do what you have to do in the best interest of your child. People are too quick to judge, ... [snip!] ... with him. Don't worry about how prepared he is or isn't, just make sure that you are as prepared as possible. Good luck."</blockquote>



Thank you.

I'm not bitter. And have you gone through custody court? Him not showing up didn't prolong the process we proceeded without him. What prolonged the process was him not responding to any of the paper work that was sent to him and him not wanting to be responsible and it's not my job to call to make sure he has his smurf together he's a grown man and should be able to read a time and date on the paperwork I mailed to his house.