Quoting MyMonkeysNAMEisFINGERS:" I put the soap before the clothes. You're different from me. I don't like you. "
*gasp* you dirty ho!
I think people don't expect enough out of their kids these days - in general. I am sure there are people who make their kids do chores, but I see way too many people saying they don't expect any help what so ever. I believe it's part of being a family, you pitch in, you have stuff you need to do. Hell, my 3 year old can keep his room tidy and bring his own clothes hamper out to the laundry every few days. He also sweeps his eating area, helps mommy put clothes from the washer to the dryer, he likes drying the plastic plates for me when I do dishes.....he LOVES vacuuming, he's weird, lol
And I know what it's like trying to ask step-kids to do chores, I have 3 of them - 8, 6 and almost 2 and their mother passed away, they have the same emotional issues. It's not easy OP, but I know what your step-daughter is going through. There are some things that you just need to let go of like her sitting on her dads lap. Our girls are extremely attached to their daddy, sometimes it gets annoying because it interrupts other family functions like getting dinner around (since he cooks) and that, but you pick your battles and thats not one thats worth fighting.