re: My Dad doesn't think my BF will be around.

Quoting Rebecca Brown*:" I understand that logic a little bit better, and if that's what he was trying to tell me, i wish he ... [snip!] ... would get him DNA tested and all of that, like i know who the father of my baby is, it's impossible for it to be anyone else's."

Yeah, sometimes other people just don't communicate the way that makes sense to us.... especially parents. Maybe if you explain to him that it's hurting your feelings/make you uncomfortable/whatever it makes you feel next time he's doing it, and say, "you know, if you're worried that I haven't though about the possibility, I would like to have a plan just in case, (going to school, how you would hope to juggle your prorities, etc.) even though I am confident that won't happen."

Quoting Iyahna :^P:

Yeah, i feel like i need to just sit back and show him what's going to happen so i really stopped saying anything to him and told him "Well, we can only sit back and watch what happens." He has a job also, he hates it and wants to quit, but then he'll always be like "I can't even do that though i have a baby on the way. i need it."

Teenage relationships- do on occasion last. But this is so incredibly rare. Nobody begins a relationship planning for failure, but when you are still so young I think it's wise to not make too strong of commitments or take to many steps forward until your relationship has truly withstood the test of time, age and responsibility.

Highschool relationships are cakewalks compared to real life struggles, bills, crisises...

Don't confine yourself to the belief of failure, though. But do try and be realistic.

Quoting Rebecca Brown*:" "

meh.. hubby and I got pregnant when we were 18 and still in high school. we're still together 9 years later and have 4 kids... it was tough, but we made it work. good luck!

Quoting The Doctor:

I definately do plan on going back to school.
I'm still working on my school work currently, (I have all my credits but in ohio you need to also pass all four parts of an OGT test and i've only passed three but i'm in tutorting for the math part right now. and i'm able to take the test again in march.)
However, My mother doesn't agree with what i want to do. She wants me to go out and get another full time job(I had one and it was absolute HELL and she didn't care that i felt stressed out she said it didn't exsist and all supervisors would act like how mine were and how i had nothing to worry about and then BAM! fired because of her lies.)
Back when i was in high school, I needed some ink for my printer for a project, and she asked why she should get it when I was never gonna make it anyway?(The school was willing to cover the cost of ink.)
So she doesn't support me but my boyfriend definately does.
He's glad that i want to work on school and better myself and thinks i'm doing right.

Quoting J+D=4:"

Congrats!
I don't know, my dad just makes me feel that it can work with other young couples, just not me.

I heard that. SD was around for everything. Appointments. Life. Anything and everything. DD was 2 months old, and he left. And has never looked back.

Good riddance.

Quoting *Berrrr:"

Wow, i wouldn't expect him to leave after two months.
I mean i really don't see it happening but if he does leave, oh well.
I'm not gonna try and force him to be around if he doesn't want to so he can put some kind of stress or something on my child.
My child will just have one awesome loving mom If daddy was stupid and chose to leave.

Quoting Rebecca Brown*:" Wow, i wouldn't expect him to leave after two months. I mean i really don't see it happening but if he ... [snip!] ... kind of stress or something on my child. My child will just have one awesome loving mom If daddy was stupid and chose to leave."

Thats how I felt. Said he wouldn't leave. He would be there. He loved us. He wanted the baby. Blah blah blah.

Be realistic. It's much easier for a man to run than a woman. Though, the latter happens too.

Everyone said that about my daughters dad.

They were right.

I was 19 when I got pregnant. He was 22. We're 20/23 now and He gets sad if he has to leave our son for a weekend (work). But we've lived together since I was 17 without help from any parents. Men don't always leave but it does happen.. Just hope for the best.

You are definitely not the only one I'm 18, and 29 weeks pregnant, my partner is 21 and we both currently live with my parents, and if you met my dad you would probably think your dad is a walk in the park hahaha. He is constantly telling me to prepare for the worst and even says these things in front of my partner, after a while you learn to just suck it up and take it on the chin, at the end of the day they're your parents and they're gonna have their say no matter what, deep down they mean well. In the end all you can do is prove them wrong if that's what you believe 

Maybe point out to him that the people on teen mom got pregnany at 16 not 19 and there is a huge maturity gap between the two ages for most people. Im also pretty sure no one on teen mom was with their BD for over a year before they got pregnant so just becaise they all broke up except one couple doesnt mean anything because the situations are much different.

i got pregnant with my first at 17. my boyfriend was 18. EVERYONE told me he was going to run. well guess what? he didn't! we have been together for 7 years now and we are married and completely happy with a family and everything. we are actually expecting #3 any day now. so don't listen to what your dad is saying. if your bf is there for you then you are one of the lucky ones.

When I found out I was pregnant, I had just started dating my now husband. My grandma wanted me to move to Missouri to live with her & quit school because she was sure he would dip.

He's my husband now & I couldn't be more happier.

Best of luck to you!!! =)