Quoting Danielle: Jack&Basil'sMom:" A friend of mine goes to fetish clubs and swinger clubs and such like that and I've been thinking ... [snip!] ... I wonder how far hubs is willing to go with others involved" So I sit and fantasize about it nearly all day at work. "
If he's new to the whole thing, taking him to a dungeon might make him run for the hills. It can get crazy. I'd work your way up to something like that. You'd also be wise to go watch what goes on for yourself before you decide it's really your
bag. You don't have to participate, just watch the show. If it still seems like your fantasy, tell him all about what your friend saw/did the last time she went and see how he reacts. If all goes well, ask him how he'd feels about threesomes. I find with SO, just asking his opinion on things I want to try before actually coming out and saying "Hey, let's try this" works more in my favor. Because I can gauge his reaction and it gets him thinking about it. My point is, baby steps.