Confusing situation.

BD and I have had our differences in the past, but in may 2011 (she was over a year old) he started taking her on a regular basis. He was doing pretty good, a few slip ups here and there but nothing too bad. He's been taking her to family's house that live in section 8, and supposedly somebody "ratted" him out because he does not live there. He was supposedly (and I say supposedly because he like to lie sometimes) told that his family cannot have visitors for more than 30 days total in a year. He left me a message on friday (he was taking her saturday) saying that he doesnt know when hes gonna see her... I had to message his girlfriend on facebook cause he has no phone and blocked me on facebook, asking her to pass along a message to e mail me or something so we can figure something out. He never offered to even spend a little time with her during the day. I've told him many times he can come here with her, and i can leave so he can have his time. He never answered me back or called me. I don't know what to make of this situation. I feel like he's screwing out on seeing her again. nothing is adding up... What should I do? She misses him, but hasnt been flipping out... Just mentions him here and there. I just have a bad feeling...

he cant have his child visit? that doesnt make sense, he sounds like he's lying from what i gather.

Quoting shes*almost*one!:" he cant have his child visit? that doesnt make sense, he sounds like he's lying from what i gather. "

I think he was living there "illegally", but didn't mention that to me. Nothing with this situation is adding up. The biggest thing that I don't understand is that everything seemed to be going great with him seeing her. Nobody seems to believe him either  

Quoting Platypus:" I think he was living there "illegally", but didn't mention that to me. Nothing with this situation ... [snip!] ... that I don't understand is that everything seemed to be going great with him seeing her. Nobody seems to believe him either  "

yeah that's just really smurfing weird. he can take her out for the day without going to his house... there's a ton of fun smurf to do in the winter around here. what city do you lvie in

Looks like bullsmurf from here.
Is she very upset?
You could always petition to change the arrangement if it's court ordered but... you never know how that could turn out.

Quoting anonymom + 1.5:" Looks like bullsmurf from here. Is she very upset? You could always petition to change the arrangement if it's court ordered but... you never know how that could turn out."

She doesn't seem phased by it, but it's only been one weekend. We don't have any visitation agreement or anything (thank god). We just kind of had an agreement between us. I don't get as much child support as i should be, but since I was trying not to cause a fuss, I never took him back to court. If he breaks my LO's heart and doesn't contact me within the next month especially with xmas and her birthday coming up, i'm taking his sorry ass back to court.

Quoting Platypus:" She doesn't seem phased by it, but it's only been one weekend. We don't have any visitation agreement ... [snip!] ... contact me within the next month especially with xmas and her birthday coming up, i'm taking his sorry ass back to court."

For child support?

I understand. I wanted to kill my ex last week.. He told LO that he was coming to see her and then blew the visit off because, "I don't want to leave her and be upset." So it's better to never see her, I guess. I just wish there was a way to make them see what they're missing.

Quoting anonymom + 1.5:" For child support? I understand. I wanted to kill my ex last week.. He told LO that he was coming ... [snip!] ... her and be upset." So it's better to never see her, I guess. I just wish there was a way to make them see what they're missing."

Yeah he pays 308 a month but with the amount he makes now, he should be paying 624. And that's if he works 40 hours a week. He works way more than that, but im not sure how much exactly. He doesn't buy her clothes or anything, i supply the stuff for his house. He brags about how he has money saved for an apartment, but he's supposedly homeless or w/e. It's all childish. Guys like this will regret a lot when they are older and their children end up hating them.

Quoting Platypus:" Yeah he pays 308 a month but with the amount he makes now, he should be paying 624. And that's if he ... [snip!] ... homeless or w/e. It's all childish. Guys like this will regret a lot when they are older and their children end up hating them."

i think you need to just ignore him. i hope you're working a full time job

Quoting shes*almost*one!:" i think you need to just ignore him. i hope you're working a full time job"

I was working a full time job until I got sick from working there (it was a pharmaceutical company) doctor wasn't sure if it was a reaction from a drug there or something in the building. So I decided to go back to school full time until I can find a job . I already have a medical assisting certificate, but that's not even enough to get a medical assisting job apparently. Buuuut this is all off topic.

Quoting Platypus:" I was working a full time job until I got sick from working there (it was a pharmaceutical company) ... [snip!] ... assisting certificate, but that's not even enough to get a medical assisting job apparently. Buuuut this is all off topic."

that really sucks... but you cant be upset your kids dad isnt support you guys when you arent doing anything to support yourselves either. you're no better than he.