re: OFFICIAL JULY 2013 THREAD (pt. 2)

Quoting susanesque:" Everyone keeps telling me to MAKE her learn, but if she's not ready she's not ready. Or at least that's ... [snip!] ... No big girl panties, no stickers, no toys, no candy... Nothing will convince this kid, so I figure she'll do it eventually.  "

One day out of the blue my daughter just started going on the potty. She has a hard time with pooping because she wants to keep playing but she is doing great. She is three and a half. Literally it was like overnight.

Quoting *Mega Mom*:" If it helps any, my son didn't potty train until 3 1/2. He was afraid to poop. So finally I stuck a ... [snip!] ... up there and stuck him on the potty. He tried hard to hold it in, but eventually went. Hasn't had an accident since. "

Ive done that for my son but only when he was constipated....

<blockquote><b>Quoting susanesque:</b>" Everyone keeps telling me to MAKE her learn, but if she's not ready she's not ready. Or at least that's ... [snip!] ... No big girl panties, no stickers, no toys, no candy... Nothing will convince this kid, so I figure she'll do it eventually.  "</blockquote>




She will ! You can't MAKE them, in my opinion anyway. She will do it when she is ready! Positive encouragement is good, but l don't Know how you would make a Kid do it anyway. haha my Kids were always Stubborn!

Quoting susanesque:" We had a little scare tonight. Went to the bathroom and had a super sharp pain and some bright red spotting, ... [snip!] ... and very casually asked if I planned to VBAC with this one. Apparently it is much more common at my hospital than I knew.  "

I am so glad to hear that everything is okay.

Quoting Jonna McCullough:" Helllo!!!!!   My Bame Is Jonna and I am the very Proud Mommt of 3 Sweet little Girls   And We Are Expecting ... [snip!] ... Our Very 1st BOY on July 16th 2013 Id Like to Hoin your Due Date Group   Helllllo Fellow Mommmys and Mommys To BE!!!!!!"

Welcome and Congrats!

Quoting •mommy of 4•:" <blockquote><b>Quoting susanesque:</b>" Everyone keeps telling me to MAKE her learn, ... [snip!] ... Positive encouragement is good, but l don't Know how you would make a Kid do it anyway. haha my Kids were always Stubborn!"

My son only got interested in the potty after seeing kids in his toddler class using the potties in the classroom. He is not fully potty trained but does a decent job.

I never planned to start trying to potty train him until we got to our place in VA, but he had other plans this past September.

Quoting susanesque:" Everyone keeps telling me to MAKE her learn, but if she's not ready she's not ready. Or at least that's ... [snip!] ... No big girl panties, no stickers, no toys, no candy... Nothing will convince this kid, so I figure she'll do it eventually.  "

One thing i learned is they do things at different rates and when they are ready. Noah kinda took his sweet time but he did it himself which was awesome! Took a little longer for him to poop on the toilet but one day he just figured it out and yeah!  

I just need to vent. I need help. Idk how to make this relationship work anymore.

We dont do anything with each other or talk to each other anymore. Im happy to go to work for 9 hours a day on the weekend when he is home. We dont show affection or love. We hqvent had sex in a while and when i tried to bring it up and stuff he said i just lay there an do nothing. Its true. I cant even kiss him anymore. He smokes and his breath is so rank from it, like it turns me off instantly.

On valentines, i get nothing first off all..which isnt surprising..then im laying with the girls to get them asleep he comes in and starts rubbing my back a few mins and then puts my hand on his dick.. It made me mad.. Like he is only doing it for sex.. So of course i didnt give him any. I was gonna try to be frisky last night and nope.. Didnt do it. Sigh. I have no motivation. I tell him how i feel. How i wish he would compliemnt now and then. Or even when we get the rare date to actually talk about stuff and be cute, but nothing chqnges. Ive been telling him a few years i wish he would tell me i look pretty now and then.. And he doesnt. Ever. Hsnt in years... But he could talk to a co worker and tell her about how her ass gives him dirty thoughts and smurf
Cant bring that up either without being called stupid. I just dont know anymore. We used to be happy and perfect and then everything slowly has been getting worse and worse. I tell him we need to talk and then he doesnt talk to me and its awkward silcence all day. Im so over it. I want love, i want butterflies, i want t be appreciated and its not there, and nothiing is changing...

Quoting ☮ Phuket:" I just need to vent. I need help. Idk how to make this relationship work anymore. We dont do anything ... [snip!] ... all day. Im so over it. I want love, i want butterflies, i want t be appreciated and its not there, and nothiing is changing..."

I'm sorry you're feeling that way   When the kids are asleep and he's sitting on the couch, just start talking to him and see what happens. Hopefully he talks back and you can get some things resolved.

Do you think that if you initiate kissing or sex that he'll get excited?

I'm sorry you feel so unappreciated!   I know that feeling, my husband and I go through spurts like this too. It's usually around a big life changing event. Just try to talk to him & let him know how you feel.

Has anyone had a sonogram relatively early & just feel like the gender wasnt right? My sonographer told me at 16 weeks we were having our 3rd girl (which totally excites me) but I just don't feel like this baby is a girl. Am I crazy??? Guess I'll see at my 20 weeks appt next Wednesday.

Quoting ☮ Phuket:" I just need to vent. I need help. Idk how to make this relationship work anymore. We dont do anything ... [snip!] ... all day. Im so over it. I want love, i want butterflies, i want t be appreciated and its not there, and nothiing is changing..."

I am sorry mama  
I am currently in the same boat..we never kiss or have sex or anything. He wants to i just feel very unattractive and fat and all that fun stuff that goes through our pregnant heads. I know he loves me but its hard to feel sexy when you dont look sexy in your own eyes. We never talk either and when we do it is usually ended with a rude comment then the night is crap.
I wish i had some advice for you, but I am in the same boat..I hope both our relationships can improve. AND SOON  

Quoting ☮ Phuket:" I just need to vent. I need help. Idk how to make this relationship work anymore. We dont do anything ... [snip!] ... all day. Im so over it. I want love, i want butterflies, i want t be appreciated and its not there, and nothiing is changing..."

Im sorry to hear that. I have no advice, because I am currently going through the same thing with my DH. I was just about to post something similar about my DH and I. It is 2 days until our 4 year wedding anniversary and I am not speaking to my husband. How smurfed up is that?
I hope you two can work it out. Im sorry, I really wish I had some good advice for you that would also work in my relationship. *hugs*

Quoting MamaGriffin[20 Weeks]:" I am sorry mama   I am currently in the same boat..we never kiss or have sex or anything. He wants ... [snip!] ... crap. I wish i had some advice for you, but I am in the same boat..I hope both our relationships can improve. AND SOON  "

I can totally relate to the body issues right now. I look in the mirror and see a fat chick with a beer gut. My DH shows zero interest in pleasuring me, its all about him. He always jsut wants a quickie or a Bj and never gives two smurfs about whether I am satisfied.. Last night, I gave myself a pedi/ mani, got all dolled up and shaved ;) and was ready for action.. He came home and said he was going out with his guy friends AGAIN. I basically told him to smurf off and die   Sorry this turned into a vent. But I hope all of our relationships improve soon!

Quoting AmyOrangeMama:" I can totally relate to the body issues right now. I look in the mirror and see a fat chick with a beer ... [snip!] ... basically told him to smurf off and die   Sorry this turned into a vent. But I hope all of our relationships improve soon! "

Dude i hear ya! On valentines day [we normally NEVER celebrate it] he came home with some wild flowers and chocolates and it was VERY nice i loved it, wasnt expecting it and it was kind!

20 mins later he goes "Can i get a BJ or something"
dude.

Quoting MamaGriffin[20 Weeks]:" Dude i hear ya! On valentines day [we normally NEVER celebrate it] he came home with some wild flowers ... [snip!] ... it was VERY nice i loved it, wasnt expecting it and it was kind! 20 mins later he goes "Can i get a BJ or something" dude. "

Oh wow.