The sadness just overcomes everything

I hate living here with you. I hate that he's here but if he's sleeping no smurfing help. He sits down, he falls asleep, he feeds the baby, he falls asleep feeding the baby. He falls asleep, he wont wake up. What, like he is the only one tired. I am always tired. Always. I shouldnt have accepted this smurfing ring and I shouldnt have had a baby because I dont wanna do this on my own. I'm sick, I have mastitis, my newborn is sick, my toddler has just been getting on my nerves, I feel like I hate my fiance, I need to pump but I am too smurfing tired to sit down and pump while she is asleep, which feels like never when it comes to the night and early morning. I am stressed out, running out of milk, her tummy hates formula. Smurf life right now. Smurf life. Smurf life.

Oh momma I am so sorry you are having such a hard time. This is a tough part for all mommas & couples. Being sick is absolutely no help. Can you just do a dream feed with baby & nurse? It helps much more in clearing mastitis than pumping & it would likely delay her next waking so maybe you could get a bit more rest.

Huge hugs to you!

Have you tried different types of formula? Like soy or the one that's made so it's easier for babies to digest?

And from your profile it says you're engaged. You're not married yet so you have time to think and sort out whether you want to spend the rest of your life with him. Take this time to talk to him and let him know how his behavior is affecting you and how you feel about him. Having an SO and yet feeling like you're alone is completely unacceptable, in my opinion.

Quoting iLL-Legal Alien:" Have you tried different types of formula? Like soy or the one that's made so it's easier for babies ... [snip!] ... you and how you feel about him. Having an SO and yet feeling like you're alone is completely unacceptable, in my opinion."

You can't just "take a break" from nursing in the middle of mastitis though - at leas tit isn't advisable as it's likely to make you sicker.   You get well fastest by frequent milk removal.

Quoting justanothamotha:" You can't just "take a break" from nursing in the middle of mastitis though - at leas tit isn't advisable as it's likely to make you sicker.   You get well fastest by frequent milk removal."

Oh I see.

I'm sorry, mama.  
I hope things get better for you. I agree with the others...Don't let him walk all over you. You deserve a little "me" time.

you cant take your baby back... both of your babys need you and if your so is acting like an ass tell him. if you feel negative that will transmit to your babys,,, just suck it up.. its always hard in the beginning... sooner of later you will get the routine and be happier...   your really pretty and i bet your babys are beautiful. keep positive attitute   and trust positive things will come <3

I am feeling a little better today... I know my babies need me and I will be here for them til the ends of the earth. As for my SO, we'll see where we get but I wont give up just yet. Thank you all for the support

I feel he same way my dh wasn't helping at night and it was driving me crazy its so upsetting because I was soo tired and I feel like he just doesn't care to help' I felt like for a minute it was hurting our marriage :/

Quoting Chelsea.:" I am feeling a little better today... I know my babies need me and I will be here for them til the ends ... [snip!] ... til the ends of the earth. As for my SO, we'll see where we get but I wont give up just yet. Thank you all for the support"

I was not sur ewhat to say as I dont' knwo you very well - but what you wrote MANY women could writ eat various point s in being postpartum when they ar ehavin ga tough moment.

I hope all is well. Keep trying to tealk to him & be VERY specific about what you need. Men do NOT generlaly take hints - they need big huge billboards.

What ahs worked best for Dh & I is for me to writ eit out.

So I literally say oin a note:
Today I need you to run to the grocery store - the list is on the counter.
I need you to take DS#1 out of the house ot get fresh air & play.
I need you to do a load of clothes fo rme & baby - and put them in the drier too.


And so on. If I write it out like that - I DO get him to do things most times with no cmplaint. It really IS why women made "honey do" lists & as corny as they sound they became so well known because they WORK.

Hope things are easing up & you are getting some sleep - I hope EVERYONE in your house is.