re: venting..

Quoting Heeeeeey, Sexy lady. ;):" & you let him keep coming around?"

I dont let him do anything. He keeps taking it to the courts and even tho I have police reports, and pics and video of them crying and tell us what happened, the courts dont care. In fact last time they threatened to give him custody if I refused him visitation again. He hasnt seen them since April, the last time the cops and CPS were called. Ran into him at the store and one of our kids was with me, he didnt say smurf to her but next thing I know a cpl weeks ago Im getting a summons to court the 19th for custody with the same judge that threaened me.

Quoting Lisa Kirkman:" I dont let him do anything. He keeps taking it to the courts and even tho I have police reports, and ... [snip!] ... but next thing I know a cpl weeks ago Im getting a summons to court the 19th for custody with the same judge that threaened me."

What the smurf? That's very sad. Sometimes our justice system is very disappointing.

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommaSav2:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting *~*allykat*~*:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting MommaSav2:</b>" ... [snip!] ... bd who refuses to pay child support and your LO is eligible for survivors benefits. Like I said, the grass is always greener."</blockquote>




My son gets nothing. He doesn't get any benefits. Never has.

Quoting Heeeeeey, Sexy lady. ;):" What the smurf? That's very sad. Sometimes our justice system is very disappointing."

yup. CPS up here is in alot of trouble too. In average we lose 140 children a year to abuse and murder. They dont do anything bout the ones that realy are hurting their children. Plus they allow foster parents to physical and sexualy abuse these children and do nothing. I hate it up here. Nothing worse than knowing you cant protect your children, since the justice system is corrupt and against you.

Quoting *~*allykat*~*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting MommaSav2:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting *~*allykat*~*:</b>" ... [snip!] ... Like I said, the grass is always greener."</blockquote> My son gets nothing. He doesn't get any benefits. Never has."

DD doesn't get anything. BD may as well not even exist. The benefit in all this? DH is the ONLY dad she knows. Con? Someday she will ask about sperm donor and I'm gonna have to try to explain to her why he never wanted to be in her life.

I'm sorry but really?
"Look at the big picture and realize your child still has the chance to grow up with both parents"..
excuse me.. not ALL kids with both living parents gets to grow up with both of them around.
and whats more heartbreaking to a kid, then knowing there father/parent COULD be there but CHOOSES not to be..
Your son will eventually understand his fathers passed away and not grow up his whole life thinking he just doesn't care. Unlike MOST children with dead beat dads who grow up thinking there dad just didn't care about them.

So before you 'slap' a chick for saying that, maybe you should realize that your situations smurffy but so is the rest of us 'single' moms. And we have the right to be pissed/upset/mad at our BD's for CHOOSING not to be in our childs life.

<blockquote><b>Quoting *~*allykat*~*:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting MommaSav2:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting *~*allykat*~*:</b>" ... [snip!] ... Like I said, the grass is always greener."</blockquote> My son gets nothing. He doesn't get any benefits. Never has."</blockquote>




As a minor with a deceased parent your child is eligible for survivor benefits. Have you looked into that?

<blockquote><b>Quoting MommaSav2:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting *~*allykat*~*:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting MommaSav2:</b>" ... [snip!] ... As a minor with a deceased parent your child is eligible for survivor benefits. Have you looked into that?"</blockquote>




We have been denied 3 times in the last 2 years.

I am sorry for your loss but you dont have the right to judge anyone we all have different situation and are going through different things. Being a single mom no matter the situation is hard.