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Quoting Its Eh-Lei:" oh my god get it from someone elses point of view! She said things out of frustration. Who wouldn't. & Stop lying youve done it once of twice."

The hell are you talking about? I have NEVER said anything about not liking Wesley because of his Mom. He has been more than welcome in my house and around me... my parents adore that child. I can't stand his Mom, and the only thing I've said is I wish she'd step up and be a Mom. The only, ONLY time I've gotten really frustrated with him when some sexual stuff was going on (exposed himself to a girl, and I didnt know what I should do with Lily) and the fits he throws are horrendous... my anxiety goes up because the fighting between him and his Dad is truly horrible. But I've never said I didnt like him or want to be around him... I've always asked for help. Such as, what the hell do I do to protect my child. And how to deal with the situation so Wesley's teen years aren't horrible once those hormones kick in. I've never, EVER said anything about not liking him or wanting him around and pissing on him because of who his mother is. I cant stand the mother, but you will see in numerous threads that I dont like her but respect her as his Mom. I love that little boy and wish his hormones werent so bad and wish his mother would step the smurf up.... but I've never even come close to saying the things this girl has.

<blockquote><b>Quoting FroggysMommy:</b>" The hell are you talking about? I have NEVER said anything about not liking Wesley because of his Mom. ... [snip!] ... werent so bad and wish his mother would step the smurf up.... but I've never even come close to saying the things this girl has."</blockquote>



She came in here to vent. We all do it. She said shes never said these things to her SO or those kids. I can understand where she is coming from, and nows shes getting attacked in here.

"She came in here to vent. We all do it. She said shes never said these things to her SO or those kids. I can understand where she is coming from, and nows shes getting attacked in here"

It is good to vent. Your situation seems stressful and frustrating. First time pregnancy is a lot to deal with, on top of added baggage... with it being a high risk pregnancy I recommended NOT getting a job. I worked up until 39 weeks. It was hell for the last month... My feet were swollen, I had to pee every 20 minutes and worked long hours because I was on salary. I would have taken the last month off if I could have. I am not sure how far long you are... but again I would not start working. I think most employers won't hire a pregnant woman, even if it's discrimination, they would find another reason why you are not a suitable candidate. And without free day care, I doubt you will go back to work after the baby is born. Daycare is SO expensive... it is only worth it if both parents make fat cash. I chose to not go back to work... I was working 55+ hours a week, we could have afforded daycare, but then I would never see my child, if I would have stepped down, I would have never seen my family because my husband and I would have been working opposite schedules and the extra money wasn't worth our child only being with one parent at a time.
Since your man is working so hard... try to give him warm dinners, clean clothes and some BJs once in a while. He is working hard for you, your little boy and his family.
Always strive to be the bigger person, even when your hormones and inner self know that it's not right for people to act crazy and out of line doesn't mean you have to stoop to their level. In the end, deep down, you will be happy you were cool.
Congratz on becoming a mommy! And remember to breathe.