re: The sex talk...

Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mommatini.:</b>" My mother refused to get me birth control, ... [snip!] ... 18 can go to the health dept and get bc. They actually don't allow parents to go. The girl has to go in and get it herself."

Most states that is the case. However most young teens are not furnished with this information sadly.

Quoting MysticWitchKat:" If people are waiting till 11 and 12 to have the talk it's already too late. Kids are in middle school ... [snip!] ... to start early with an open relationship in which they ask questions. But by around age 9 it's time for a frank discussion."

so true. When I was in HS they were sending letters home to parents warning them about kindergarteners having "rainbow" parties. They had meetings with all the teachers in the district and then talked to every grade student about it eventually. Depending on what grade you were in is how they approached it but it was a serious enough issue to warrant attention that's for sure.

Quoting DifferentDay:" so true. When I was in HS they were sending letters home to parents warning them about kindergarteners ... [snip!] ... on what grade you were in is how they approached it but it was a serious enough issue to warrant attention that's for sure."

RAINBOW PARTIES?? As in, the sex party thing with the different colored lipsticks??

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:</b>" RAINBOW PARTIES?? As in, the sex party thing with the different colored lipsticks??"</blockquote>




Yep. I was sitting in parenting class senior yr and about three up when teacher said we'd have an assembly to discuss it.

Quoting DifferentDay:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:</b>" RAINBOW PARTIES?? As in, the sex party ... [snip!] ... Yep. I was sitting in parenting class senior yr and about three up when teacher said we'd have an assembly to discuss it."

I'm curious how in the HELL kindergartners even KNEW about such a thing. I was outta HS before i even knew what the hell those were lol

Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:" I'm curious how in the HELL kindergartners even KNEW about such a thing. I was outta HS before i even knew what the hell those were lol"

Probably simply a scare tactic used to get parents to attend was all.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:</b>" I'm curious how in the HELL kindergartners even KNEW about such a thing. I was outta HS before i even knew what the hell those were lol"</blockquote>




Prolly overheard older siblings or older kids on the buses. Ours weren't separated by grades or schools. If the elementary school was on the way we'd drop all those kids off first then the ms n hs. This was back in 04. The assembly kinda leaned more heavily on Internet access in the home and about ways the older siblings could help by keeping an ear out and informing an adult. Me either! It wasn't something I ever knew/thought of in Kindergarten of all places.

wish it was only a scare tactic. 90 mins in parenting listening to classmates tell how they found out, what their little bro or sis said, and how the parents reacted.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:</b>" When my dad found out about her doing that, he flipped smurf on her and IMMEDIATELY took me to get on the pill. He was so PISSED at her."</blockquote>




Lol not mine he found out I lost it he called me a whore and said I wasn't his daughter it took him until after I had my first son and got married (at 20) that he stopped calling me that :/

I'll have the official talk with my son when he's around 8-9ish. That's the age my mom had the talk with me.

Quoting *Jackie O*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Chelsea Dawns Mama:</b>" When my dad found out about her doing ... [snip!] ... I wasn't his daughter it took him until after I had my first son and got married (at 20) that he stopped calling me that :/"

And you still associate with him o.O?

My DH is not comfortable talking to my DD about sex when it is time. I will do that no problem. He will talk to my DS when it is time. They can ask either of us any questions they have, but most likely the sex talk and any questions will be done by the same gender parent. As far as condoms go, I am so worried for my kids. I developed an allergy to latex in my teens (I found out from a dentist when he had the gloves on and touched my face.....my face swelled up so big and so fast I had to go to the ER by ambulance, I could barely breathe). I am worried that they could end up being allergic too (my mom and nephew are too) so I know latex condoms are more dependable, but part of my really wants to leave non-latex options. My DH and I have discussed how that will work, in case my DS is embarrassed to discuss sex with me then he will have a stash that daddy gives him but mommy doesn't know about, to his knowledge anyways. Same with my DD and if she wants to be on BC.

I have 3 girls, and they all ready know all about sex and pregnancy and personal space etc.....

The school here teaches it in grade 1-2 as well as drug awareness etc....so when my oldest was going to learn about it in school, I had the talk with her first. So it wasnt uncomfortable or anything.

They purley talk about here in school for the purpose of sexual abuse awarness, which is where we started the talk and went from there etc....
So I had the talk with my middle dd as well. I didnt sugar coat anything at all. Sure certain things were not discussed at all, like bj's etc.....but dd is older now and knows almost everything. And constantly asks me questions about sex when she hears stuff at school etc....

<blockquote><b>Quoting MysticWitchKat:</b>" And you still associate with him o.O?"</blockquote>




He's my dad :/ and since my sister got "bad" I don't really hear Nything about me lol unless he hears that I have a male friend even tho I'm married and they are not friends with my husband  

Quoting Mann Makin' Mama[BBM]:" Do you think you would approach the talk differently if you have the opposite sex of your child. What ... [snip!] ... sure they're educated and the most important one...do not fall for the "I'm on birth control" because birth control fails. "

I don't believe in "the talk" - I think it should be an ongoing discussion based on what the child asks & making sure to expose them to enough stuff too. I don't mean inappropriate x rated stuff - I mean stuff like not shletering them from seeing women breastfeed & talking to them about theri parts & correct names & how the opposite sex has different parts.

I correct anything that my child says that is incorrect, I don't offer more than what is asked & I answer everything that is asked. My 5 yr old Ds already knows all about birth & has seen birth videos, he knows all about breastfeeding, he knows the correct names of male & female parts (he even knows the external viewable parts of a girls are actually called a vulva AND he knows most people incorrectly identify that area as vagina, but that the vagina is what is inside), and on his own he has come up with the explanation that sex is naked kissing & since he has not asked anything else, I have not said anything about it. I am not even sure how he defined it that way as we don't have much TV but I am sure he saw something somewhere. For all I know it could have been while at a friend's house. I asked & he said he didn't know why he knew that, he just knew it. I think he wanted to seem smart.