Quoting Mann Makin' Mama[BBM]:" Do you think you would approach the talk differently if you have the opposite sex of your child. What ... [snip!] ... sure they're educated and the most important one...do not fall for the "I'm on birth control" because birth control fails. "
I don't believe in "the talk" - I think it should be an ongoing discussion based on what the child asks & making sure to expose them to enough stuff too. I don't mean inappropriate x rated stuff - I mean stuff like not shletering them from seeing women breastfeed & talking to them about theri parts & correct names & how the opposite sex has different parts.
I correct anything that my child says that is incorrect, I don't offer more than what is asked & I answer everything that is asked. My 5 yr old Ds already knows all about birth & has seen birth videos, he knows all about breastfeeding, he knows the correct names of male & female parts (he even knows the external viewable parts of a girls are actually called a vulva AND he knows most people incorrectly identify that area as vagina, but that the vagina is what is inside), and on his own he has come up with the explanation that sex is naked kissing & since he has not asked anything else, I have not said anything about it. I am not even sure how he defined it that way as we don't have much TV but I am sure he saw something somewhere. For all I know it could have been while at a friend's house. I asked & he said he didn't know why he knew that, he just knew it. I think he wanted to seem smart.