Feel like smurf

posted 1st Dec
Well just two days after getting a BFP I've passed three big clots and am spotting. Clearly miscarriage number two has just happened. All SO has to say about the matter is 'oh well at least we don't have to worry about cleaning up the spare room'. I can't stop crying despite the fact that it wasn't planned and he just tells me I'm being stupid/
I want to die, I want to cut every inch of my skin until there's nothing left. I can't do anything right, I can't even keep a baby alive for more than a few weeks. Sure I had one healthy baby but that was probably just a fluke.
I'm good for nothing and don't deserve to live.
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I'm due October 6th (a boy), have 1 child & live in Perth, Australia
posted 1st Dec
I am so sorry.   Please don't hurt yourself.  
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posted 1st Dec
dont think like that. your child needs you and loves you. im so sorry for your loss
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I'm TTC since April '13, have 1 child & live in Kentucky
posted 1st Dec
I am so very sorry. But do not hurt yourself hun, it is not worth it. I promise.
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I'm due May 24th & live in Madison, Alabama
posted 1st Dec
Awwe sweetie I'm So sorry. Idk why these things happen but please don't beat yourself up. Talk to hubby though and tell him how bad that hurt you. He probably didn't know what to say and didn't want to look hurt but I'm
Sure he is.
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I have 2 kids & 1 angel baby & live in Beaverton, Michigan
posted 1st Dec
im sorry for your loss... if you are truly feeling this way and your SO is being a douche, you should go to the ER or call someone or something. to get ita ll out.
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I'm due July 20th (a boy), have 3 kids & live in Mueang Phuket, Thailand
posted 1st Dec
Wait, he said you were being stupid?! *RAGE*
It's not your fault. This is an extremely emotional thing that you are going through. I can't imagine the pain. Let it out and cry all you need to, but please don't say that you are good for nothing. I consider you a friend and I don't have many of those. I think you are a lovely person that is so much stronger than she realizes.
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I have 3 kids & live in North Carolina
posted 1st Dec
Ohhh crap, I'm sorry Master. You do deserve to live, sweets <3
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I live in Australia
posted 1st Dec
Quoting The (super kinky) Master:" Well just two days after getting a BFP I've passed three big clots and am spotting. Clearly miscarriage ... [snip!] ... a few weeks. Sure I had one healthy baby but that was probably just a fluke. I'm good for nothing and don't deserve to live."

Your SO sounds like a douche bag that has no feelings. Men can't understand anything a woman goes through. I am very sorry that you lost the baby but the fact that you already have one proves that you ARE good for something and you CAN keep one alive for longer than a few weeks. Don't be so hard on yourself....and tell him to shove it.
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I have 3 kids & 2 angel babies & live in Dayton, Ohio
posted 1st Dec
Oh hun i know exactly how ur feeling! Ive been there well over 10xs. Ur SO had no right to say that, men do not understand the feelings of loss and pain and yes frankly uselessness. U r good for something though go look at ur beautiful child u have made, u made and carried that child! If u never accomplish anything else in ur life u have brought a beautiful miracke into this world! I am on my 3rd pregnancy in a row, cant believe its almost over. The first two babies i lost within days of bfp, this one i held no hope for. It was my time, our other child is 9 1/2yrs old! It may take forever, so it seems, but give urself a chance. We waited and tried for 5yrs before our first, countless miscarriages, had a very hard pregnancy, but in the end it was worth it, we had our miracle. We never used birth control, our son was a fluke doctors said, id never get pregnant again. The 10+ miscarriages were just since our first son. I keep remembering that all my lost babies r in heaven with my daddy watching over us. I hit rock bottom with my last loss, until i looked at my son and he gave me a huge hug and said mommy u have me and i knew that even though it hurt so bad id get thru. Every time i hit that bottom i would go hug him. U r never useless! U r a momma and that is the greatest most important job u can ever have. If u need someone to talk to, someone whos been there just pm me, im on and off all day so i will answer fairly promptly.
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I have 2 kids & live in Tulsa, Oklahoma
posted 1st Dec
I'm so sorry you're feeling this way, mama. And I'm sorry that your SO is being an ass. He can't know what you're going through, but it would be nice if he could be supportive and allow you to grieve. Miscarriages are hard, no matter how early on you are. It's normal to want to blame yourself, but please don't. This isn't your fault. I hope your next pregnancy goes smoothly. *Hugs*
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I'm due July 31st, have 1 child & 3 angel babies & live in Indiana
posted 1st Dec
Quoting The (super kinky) Master:" Well just two days after getting a BFP I've passed three big clots and am spotting. Clearly miscarriage ... [snip!] ... a few weeks. Sure I had one healthy baby but that was probably just a fluke. I'm good for nothing and don't deserve to live."
im sorry for your loss, i sort of understand how you are feeling because it was devastating when i miscarried and felt like no one was there for me and my fiancee didnt seem to care but i didnt really feel how you are explaining your feelings. if you have one healthy baby you can make another, you will always remember that baby you lost but im sure youll get pregnant again with a healthy baby soon. heres a great fb page that make bracelets for miscarriage and infant loss and they are free to mothers who have lost. they even post here!
hope you feel better soon.
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I'm due February 25th, have 1 child & 2 angel babies & live in Perth, Australia
posted 1st Dec
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I'm due February 25th, have 1 child & 2 angel babies & live in Perth, Australia
posted 1st Dec
I'm so sorry for your loss.  
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I have 1 child & live in Memphis, Tennessee
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