Bullying

If your child was bullied for 2 months by a kid 4 years older than him/her and then when your child fights back and stops taking it, the kid stops bullying her/him, but then for a solid month this bully leaves your child alone and your child continues to bully him.. How do you punish your child?

Explain to your child that what he is doing is not nice.It was ok to fight back to defend himself but he needs to stop bullying back because it hurts his/her feelings and he was once bullied and it didnt feel very nice.

I'd start by taking away something important to them, to get their attention that its serious. That's always my first recourse of punishment. Along with a long talk about how it felt to be bullied and how it's not cool to do it back. That no one wants to be friends with a bully.

I would sit them down and talk to them and tell them 2 wrongs don't make a right and what the bully was doing wasn't right, but you can't control others attitudes and what you are doing isn't right, but you can control your attitude and there is a time when you will have to be a bigger person and this is the time. After that i'd most likely ground them until i see improvement.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♥ Rhienn ♥:</b>" Explain to your child that what he is doing is not nice.It was ok to fight back to defend himself but ... [snip!] ... but he needs to stop bullying back because it hurts his/her feelings and he was once bullied and it didnt feel very nice."</blockquote>




She's old enough to know how's she's making him feel, this is about revenge.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ¡VinHautℰ!:</b>" I'd start by taking away something important to them, to get their attention that its serious. That's ... [snip!] ... a long talk about how it felt to be bullied and how it's not cool to do it back. That no one wants to be friends with a bully."</blockquote>




Smurf Krystal, lol it's Christmas!


I hate punishing her for smurf I would likely do.

I know I have to though, how long would you take it away for?

I don't think I would "punish" my LO.

I would have a serious discussion and use it as a learning experience. Make sure that my LO's know they can come to me with any other similar situation. I would also use a bit of "scare tactics". Tell LO that bullying is wrong and can get you in big trouble.

Here is some tips on getting LO's to listen more effectively.
http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/discipline-behavior/25-ways-talk-so-children-will-listen

<blockquote><b>Quoting ℳary ℐane:</b>" I don't think I would "punish" my LO. I would have a serious discussion and use it as a learning experience. ... [snip!] ... LO's to listen more effectively. http://www.askdrsears.com/topics/discipline-behavior/25-ways-talk-so-children-will-listen"</blockquote>



Thanks girl!

I'd have a hard time disciplining them, I have a very vindictive personality, so for me, I like people to get what they deserve. However if it did continue much longer I'd probably have to stop it. And personally the best thing I could think to do is put them in a situation where they are forced to be kind. Invite the child over, so they have to interact in a controlled environment. And over time I'd hope that they could learn to at least be civil, and who knows they may even find out they really do like each other.

Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" I'd have a hard time disciplining them, I have a very vindictive personality, so for me, I like people ... [snip!] ... time I'd hope that they could learn to at least be civil, and who knows they may even find out they really do like each other."

This little punk is 7 and Brooke isn't even four yet. She's suspended from the bus for a week, which is bullsmurf because he told her for two months that her parents were dead and would steal stuff out of her backpack. I'm the same as you, a part of me is like good, I hope you made that kid cry. But the other part is like, no you have to be a better parent than you are a person.

Quoting Legendary Amanda:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ¡VinHautℰ!:</b>" I'd start by taking away something important ... [snip!] ... Christmas! I hate punishing her for smurf I would likely do. I know I have to though, how long would you take it away for?"

About a week. If it's TV or something good like playing on the tablets, for like the weekend.

I know what you mean. I hate to be a hypocrite too, but addressing it gives you the ability to say at least you tried. If they turn into smurfheads when they get older we can always bitch about how it didn't take  

Quoting ¡VinHautℰ!:" About a week. If it's TV or something good like playing on the tablets, for like the weekend. I know ... [snip!] ... to say at least you tried. If they turn into smurfheads when they get older we can always bitch about how it didn't take  "

Haha, I'll probably take her ipad then, tell her if she's mean to him again (unwarranted) I'll make her give it to him.

Except I won't actually give it to him, smurf that kid.

Quoting Legendary Amanda:" This little punk is 7 and Brooke isn't even four yet. She's suspended from the bus for a week, which ... [snip!] ... like good, I hope you made that kid cry. But the other part is like, no you have to be a better parent than you are a person. "

Damn it. It's still illegal to beat other people's kids right?

Quoting Legendary Amanda:" Haha, I'll probably take her ipad then, tell her if she's mean to him again (unwarranted) I'll make her give it to him. Except I won't actually give it to him, smurf that kid. "

Seriously.  What a little pussy      

Quoting I'm His Amy He's My Rory:" Damn it. It's still illegal to beat other people's kids right?"

Pretty sure, Harry called his parents back in October and they were like "Yeah, the school already called us a couple times" and my pussy husband was like "oh okay, as long as you're taking care of it"

I would have been like, "listen you trailer trash, handle your business!"