Told my mom and it did not go well...please help!!

My cousin V is on this site and she suggested I ask here....she seems to be the only one sportive of me  

So I am 17, and will be having a girl in May, I have been with my boyfriend since I was 14, he is 18 now. We found out we were expecting end of August and were both scared....we still live at home with our parents. Well, I went to the doctors and I kept up with all my appointments and even went to the mailbox when my blood results came in to the mail....hoping my family would not find out since we were not ready to tell. At our 16 week appointment we found out we are having a girl and we figured this would be the right time to break the news to our parents.
Well I did first and when I told my mom and grandparents they flipped out. My mom started crying and screaming, calling me names and my grandma said she will die because of this and have a heart attack and her death will be my fault. I have to get an abortion or my mother will never talk to me, kick me out and cut me off forever.......
When my boyfriend told his parents....it was almost the same outcome, they will kick him out and never talk to him again.
Well, we gave them a few days to cool off but instead its getting worse....were getting threats, my clothes were thrown outside yesterday (I did convince them to let me back in). My mom called his mom telling her she will call the cops on her son and he is raping me. And now they are calling eachother threatening.

I think the best thing to do is get an abortion. BUT I DONT WANT TO!!!!! I cant bring myself to, not this far along and I just want to keep trying to make things better. But this has now put a strain between my boyfriend and I, I cant focus in school, I cant eat or sleep. I never in 10000 years thought that this would be the reaction we would get.
I am just so lost, and we want to get an apartment but we wont be able to aford everything, I work retail and make only 1000 a month (or so) and so does he. I dont think 2000 between the 2 of us will be enough to pay all the bills, food and essentials for baby.

Im scared.  

2000 is more than enough to raise a child on

See if you can get some gov't help (food stamps or rental assistance) to hlep make ends meet

If you want your baby, then keep it. Just know that it will be hard with no family support

don't let anyone force you into an abortion. it will haunt you for the rest of your life if it's not what you want.

Well.. I think that you should do what you believe is right, if you and your boyfriend are able to get a place and support a child. My family barely talked to me my entire pregnancy, but were head over heals when they met my daughter, all their anger disappeared. If you get an abortion, and truly do not want it, you are most likely going to regret it for the rest of your life.

It's not their body, or their baby... only you can make that decision.

Hell no dont have an abortion you have your rights. They cant throw you out. Get help. Dont I repeat dont have an abortion you will regret it even much more now that you know you are having a little girl and have been to all your appts. I wouldnt have the guts to do it. I know right now it seems like the only way out. They cant kick youout especially pregnant.

Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" 2000 is more than enough to raise a child on See if you can get some gov't help (food stamps or rental ... [snip!] ... assistance) to hlep make ends meet If you want your baby, then keep it. Just know that it will be hard with no family support"

 

If you don't want an abortion, DON'T get one!
If you think you shouldn't keep her then give her up for adoption, but if you were to get an abortion already knowing you don't want one it will haunt you.

Quoting Kelly&Coralie:" 2000 is more than enough to raise a child on See if you can get some gov't help (food stamps or rental ... [snip!] ... assistance) to hlep make ends meet If you want your baby, then keep it. Just know that it will be hard with no family support"

Thats what scares me. I love my mom and have always been so close, I am her only child (now, my brother passed away when he was 6) and I was always spoiled rotten (not that thats a good thing) but just knowing my family hates me and refuses to support me really hurts. I just cant stop crying over this. I'm so torn.

if you dont want a abortion, dont get one.

Uhm........I don't think you can get an abortion past a certain number of weeks? How far along are you now?


And....Your boyfriend cannot get in trouble for raping you. You are past the legal age of consent. You should inform your mother of this. But really.....Don't have an abortion because you're scared your family will be mad. If your family loves and cares for you, they will accept and deal with the decision you have made. If they kick you out and never speak to you again, then it really just shows how insensitive your family is. What your grandma said is uncalled for. You are a year away from being a legal adult.

Do what is right for YOU, not what is right for your parents or your family.

Quoting |♥| Jayme |♥|:" If you don't want an abortion, DON'T get one! If you think you shouldn't keep her then give her up for ... [snip!] ... her then give her up for adoption, but if you were to get an abortion already knowing you don't want one it will haunt you."

I dont think I can, I dont have the heart for it. I just dont want to loose my family over this.

You can afford. Get state aid if you have to. You can do it. They'll calm down eventually. If not, their loss. PM me if you need to talk.

Start applying for gov assistance. Don't let them force you into an abortion, especially this late in the game.

Quoting Valerie_gurl:" I dont think I can, I dont have the heart for it. I just dont want to loose my family over this."

you will definitely regret an abortion with you already not wanting it, but your family can come around at anytime. Don't let them force you into something you don't want.

Quoting Valerie_gurl:" My cousin V is on this site and she suggested I ask here....she seems to be the only one sportive of ... [snip!] ... he. I dont think 2000 between the 2 of us will be enough to pay all the bills, food and essentials for baby. Im scared.  "

def keep the baby IMO get an apt and move out thats horrible that your parents are treating you like that 200 is tough but you can do it get on food stamps you may qualify for families first (cash assistance) and you will get free day care there are tons of resources out there feel free to PM me anytime