This is for couples that are together. (sorry if that sounds blunt, but, i just mean, for people who are actually talking it out with the other parent)
My son isn't circ'd. But i was alone when i was pregnant with him, so i didn't have any one telling me differently.

Now this time around, dude wants to circ, and i do not.
His reasons are things like, "he'll get made fun of in HS, etc."
My reasons are it's unnecessary & if it wasn't meant to be there, why was he born with it.

It's something i'm not willing to compromise either.

But, i'm just wondering, who had the final say for you if one was for and one was against?
I've read numerous times on here that the man should have the final say cos he has a penis, and obviously, mom doesn't.
But, really? I'm trying to understand the validity of the statement.
Not in a bitchy way, just, can someone explain that to me?

So, yes, that is my question.

For those of you voting for the 'compromise', what did it end up being? i mean, like, who ended up convincing who.

I have final say. My son will not be circumcised.

Ultimately, LO should have final say. His body, you know?

My Husband did beings he's the holder of a penis.

Quoting Fancy Asparagus Beef:" I have final say. My son will not be circumcised. Ultimately, LO should have final say. His body, you know?"

Exactly. And it's alot easier to take something off later in life if he chooses, then to uh...put something "back on", ha.

I don't think the man should have the final say. what i would do-- what we do when we dont agree on something important-- we make a list of all the pros and cons. we both try to think of things to put on both sides of the list. the decision might become pretty clear after you do that together and one of you might be able to change your mind based on the list. sometimes i change my mind to agree with him, sometimes he changes his-- just depends on what we come up with for the list.

I had LO done at DH's insistence and really regret it. Basically who ever has the most evidence wins (aka me.) Or whichever option is least evasive/violent

He didn't care either way, I only decided to do it because he was so he would be like dad.

We agreed thank God but honestly I would have pulled the "they need my signature and I wont sign" card.

Because I could not do it and I am unwilling to compromise.

If you are willing to compromise though, then you should just both keep talking until one of you is convinced.

Quoting Just Ames:" My Husband did beings he's the holder of a penis. "

Did he have reasons? were you at all against it or just left it 100% in his hands to decide.

at first DH felt the same way, then I showed him research, showed him how it actually caused the boy pain, showed him statistics that there are actual death rates from it....

Eventually he gave in and no longer will circ and boy he will ever have.


Also it helps to make the argument that your child will have a better sexual experience because the tip of their penis will not be exposed so it will be more sensitive. Men can relate to that and will probably feel jealous that he got robbed of a better sexual experience...

My first child I was alone so I made the call on everything. My second child I was married and it was very hard to not get my way with everything concerning the baby but in the end every decision was something we decided together even if that descision meant that he was deciding to let me decide haha

Quoting Chim Richalds:" We agreed thank God but honestly I would have pulled the "they need my signature and I wont sign" card. ... [snip!] ... to compromise. If you are willing to compromise though, then you should just both keep talking until one of you is convinced."

oh no, i stated i'm not willing to compromise.

<blockquote><b>Quoting KNZ.:</b>" Exactly. And it's alot easier to take something off later in life if he chooses, then to uh...put something "back on", ha. "</blockquote>



Lol, exactly.

I voted mom, but I think whoever is the one that wants to let LO decide wins, lol.

My husband and I have 2 sons that were circumsized and it was a mutual decision. I guess I got lucky on the subject though. I'm probably not much help.

I'm really no help. Our decision wasn't even a discussion, it was just unspoken that we are on the same side.
I would say, gather all of your information to show him on why you don't want too, you know him best, you know what will work. Tell him you can always get a circ at anytime down the road so that's it's not 100% out of the question, that a decision doesn't need to be made RIGHT now..