Quoting tinana +2:" We talked about it, we both wanted the same thing (to circ). However I told my husband that if I decided ... [snip!] ... the AAP and CDC are changing their statements about leaving intact now- saying it's actually better to circ during infancy."
They haven't hanged. They say benefits outweigh risks but not by enough to recommend it. How is that different? There was a LOT of hype - but no real change.
The fact is benefits are ALL potential & risks are all avoidable - as in don't do it.
In our case we agreed. Had we not agreed I would literally leave my Dh BEFORE I'd let him cut on my baby - absolute. Thank heavens it did not come to that. :p I literally do see it that seriously - because it is cutting on the genitals of my child. If you want to ask me which part of MY body feels the most vulnerable & the most sacred & the most like it belongs to ME & only ME? My genitals. I would *think* most people feel that way. The LAST place I'd let anyone put a scalpel is near there, even if Dh was begging me to do it. No way. Thankfully - watching Penn & Tellers Bullsmurf started him down a path of research & that lead us to the same place. it is NOT OUR penis - not his nor mine - the penises that are intact in this house belong to the little boys who live her e& they will do with them as THEY please.
And for those that "Knew someone who needed to be circed later". PLEASE realize that 99% of them didn't & it could
have been resolved in a different way if they lived in a culture that cared to help them keep a foreskin AND that most of the time the issues come from improper care. So you DO need to educate yourself when you parent an intact child & the proper care has been lost (like Dh is circed).
Only clean what is seen.
The ONLY person who should retract it ever is the owner of the foreskin.
Do NOT use soap on mucous membranes - a water rinse is great & will avoid bacterial & yeast issue cropping up.
In Finland Infant & Child Circ is OUTLAWED for non medically indicated reasons - the rate of circumcised men among adults? 1 in 16,000 - so I DO call Bullsmurf on so many children & men "needing" circs in the US. I think parents sadly don't know what is normal & Dr's are too quick to recommend it for NORMAL stuff. The average age to retract is 10 yrs old - but I've already been told my 5 yr should retract (he doesn't) and yet my friend in Germany has a 6 yr old & she asked the Dr about it & he said "It's a little early for that"...LOL If a child is diagnosed with phimosis before age 18 - you need to run far far away from that Dr.
The fact is, most intact men who "stink" use soap...so their pH is messed up. A foreskin requires LESS care than labia - and it's easier - it's all out front where you can see it.