Is Jealousy Ever Good? D&D

Do you believe that some jealousy is essential to a good relationship?


What I mean is do you feel that people SHOULD be at least a little jealous about their partner? Would you be upset if your husband admitted that he honestly had no jealousy and was 100% okay with you sleeping with other men if you wanted to? Do you think that jealousy, in moderation, shows love and a desire to be with a person, and that a lack of that shows a person who really doesn't care?

I don't mean so much a "I know he'd never cheat" lack of jealousy. That's more trust. This is about jealousy in general, meaning totally open and honest actions.

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I think it's natural to have some. It does show your concern for your partner. it's when it gets out of control and you become a controlling jealous bitch that it is not ok.

Yes, I think a small display of jealousy is healthy.

It lets the other person feel like they are still wanted and gives them to chance to reiterate their commitment with their partner.

A little is good, not alot because it ruins relationships

I think a little jealousy is cute. When it starts to go over board and turns into insecurity, it's a problem.

Do I believe jealousy is ever good? It can be, to an extent.

Do I think there has to be jealousy in every healthy and happy relationship? Absolutely not.

Yes, a little jealousy is good. If my SO honestly doesn't care if I'm sleeping with someone else, why would I want to be with him?

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Do I believe jealousy is ever good? It can be, to an extent. Do I think there has to be jealousy in every healthy and happy relationship? Absolutely not."</blockquote>



Right i don't think you have to have some jealousy to be happy. But there's also nothing wrong with a little jealousy. I kind of get flattered when SO tells me something makes him jealous. But neither of us are psycho jealous. We both just have our little things.

Jealousy is a natural feeling in intimate relationships- to varying degrees. I believe there needs to be a balance, however, as too much (or none at all) can have detrimental effects on a relationship. Part of being human is feeling possessive over that which you view has being yours. I am my husbands, and he is mine. If he were not possessive of me, I would definitely worry that his feelings for me were non existent. People know all too well that too much jealousy is a terrible, ugly thing to deal with. It can cause distrust, anger, violence, all kinds of horrid behaviors that can lead to the rapid demise of a relationship.

But if you look at the number one reason women initiate divorce, it is because they feel lonely, unwanted, unloved and unnoticed. Without a little bit of healthy possessiveness, people will naturally feel these things. Relationships have emotional elements, and with out any clear emotion, what relationship do you really have?

Quoting FaithLovesBaby:" Yes, a little jealousy is good. If my SO honestly doesn't care if I'm sleeping with someone else, why would I want to be with him?"

So you think that a person can't love someone else without jealousy? Do people with open relationships not love each other then?

Can't you love someone very much and still not be upset if they sleep with other people, because their having sex with only you isn't the reason you love them?

A little jealousy can be good.

I had a relationship where my BF didnt seem afraid of losing me at all.....needless to say that fell apart.

My SO now always jokes about me having relationships with two of my best friends since I have more guy friends than girl friends but he doesnt go overboard.

Now my roommate....holy cow, I still dont know why his GF accepted his proposal...

If she's gone too long, he flips out accusing her of seeing someone else. They have serious trust issues with looking at each others phones/facebooks.

I think it also depends on what you consider to be 'jealousy.'

<blockquote><b>Quoting she nan igans:</b>" So you think that a person can't love someone else without jealousy? Do people with open relationships ... [snip!] ... and still not be upset if they sleep with other people, because their having sex with only you isn't the reason you love them?"</blockquote>


Hmm I didn't think of it that way. I guess it depends on what tht person values. Maybe those people feel jealousy about other things. Like if they were to have an emotional relationship with someone else.

Quoting lolajessup:" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Doctor:</b>" Do I believe jealousy is ever good? It can ... [snip!] ... when SO tells me something makes him jealous. But neither of us are psycho jealous. We both just have our little things."

Totally agree.

I had an ex that was so jealous it was insane. Like... look... I'm all about monogamy with you, bro, but if you're going to start a 5 hour yelling match with me for hugging a friend from high school that I haven't seen in 2 years, you crazy.

Quoting she nan igans:" So you think that a person can't love someone else without jealousy? Do people with open relationships ... [snip!] ... and still not be upset if they sleep with other people, because their having sex with only you isn't the reason you love them?"

You can love someone and not care who they sleep with. But a relationship where you both agree to not see other people and be completely monogamous is different than an open relationship. If my boyfriend starts our relationship not wanting me to see other people, then stops caring, there's something wrong with our relationship. Two people can't be in a relationship if they aren't on the same page about that sort of thing.