re: monogamous vs. open

Quoting LIVE.OUT.LOUD:" So I know a few women who are in open marriages/relationships. What are your opinions on this? What would ... [snip!] ... try it? Thoughts opinions? This is not based on my personal experiences. I'm just curious as to what others think about this."

I have no real opinion on others as long as they are all in agreement. And I mean honest agreement, not one person says yes just because they don't want to lose their partner.

It wouldn't be for me. I'm not really into having sex with people I don't know and love, and I would be sad to miss out on all that time with my husband to get to know someone else that well. Honestly, I just have no real drive to do so. Just not appealing to me.

I think for DH and I's relationship it would not work. Honestly all I want is him...and I would rather spend time with than anyone else if I had the time. Aslo I think relationships can be complicated enough with just two people. Adding more people in could be really unpredictable and hectic. I don't think DH would okay with the idea either...


However it does work well for some people. N since its not my life it doesn't bother me in any way. Some people need different things in there life than others.

Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" This. Plus, I'm the jealous type. So I never could lol."

So am I. People would end up dead. (jk)

An open relationship no. We are swingers though. The most important thing to us is each other's time. So if my husband were to give another women his time with out having fun with me I'd be annoyed.

I know a lot of people won't get this but it works for us.

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:</b>" This. Plus, I'm the jealous type. So I never could lol."</blockquote>




I am too. Lol I couldn't do it. My fiance would come home and it would be time for 100 questions. Lol.

Quoting kitermom:" An open relationship no. We are swingers though. The most important thing to us is each other's time. ... [snip!] ... women his time with out having fun with me I'd be annoyed. I know a lot of people won't get this but it works for us. "

We tossed this around for abit.

Ultimately, not for us but it was fun  

Quoting .Colleen.:" We tossed this around for abit. Ultimately, not for us but it was fun  "

And that shows that you guys are a strong couple for being able to talk it out and recover from it.

Things haven't always gone perfectly swinging but we've had to talk out a lot and we've learned so much about ourselves and each other.

I don't have an opinion on it really. Whatever pulls someone's trigger. I am not now, nor do I believe in the future will be, part of an open marriage. My husband and I are very similar in the aspect of our marriage being between him and I only. I don't believe others are wrong for choosing to be unconventional in the sense of an open marriage though.

Quoting kitermom:" And that shows that you guys are a strong couple for being able to talk it out and recover from it. ... [snip!] ... always gone perfectly swinging but we've had to talk out a lot and we've learned so much about ourselves and each other. "

We mainly hung out with another couple for a summer

When it came down to it, we could not go through with it  

but we did have a damn good time with them  

I wouldn't have gotten married if I still wanted to smurf other people. I got all that out of my system in my 20's.

Whatever anyone else wants to do is fine with me, as long as everyone is consenting. Knock yourselves out.

Quoting LIVE.OUT.LOUD:" So I know a few women who are in open marriages/relationships. What are your opinions on this? What would ... [snip!] ... try it? Thoughts opinions? This is not based on my personal experiences. I'm just curious as to what others think about this."

I'm not going to sit and judge others.
But I would NOT be in a relationship like that. And idk if I'd want to be with a man who even asked me if we could.
I believe God gave sex as a gift for married couples to share with eachother and only eachother.

Quoting Fancy Asparagus Beef:" If I were just in a relationship, I might go for it. But, in a marriage, I feel like there's really ... [snip!] ... a ceremony? I married my husband because I could see myself with him and only him for the rest of my life and he did the same. "

You just hit the nail right on the head though. Just because someone deems to spend the rest of their life with someone does not mean they always desire to smurf only that person. Many people can put a disconnect between sex, and emotions.

Quoting Fancy Asparagus Beef:" If I were just in a relationship, I might go for it. But, in a marriage, I feel like there's really ... [snip!] ... a ceremony? I married my husband because I could see myself with him and only him for the rest of my life and he did the same. "

double...

Quoting They call me mama.:" I think for DH and I's relationship it would not work. Honestly all I want is him...and I would rather ... [snip!] ... people. N since its not my life it doesn't bother me in any way. Some people need different things in there life than others."

Usually the open aspect is just for sex nothing else.

Quoting MysticWitchKat:" Usually the open aspect is just for sex nothing else. "

There are many varieties.

Some couples are ok with having full relationships with other people-- emotions and all.