re: would you?

Let me clarify some things I said it was nasty but from my perspective how I would feel if I was doing that. Each and everyone of you can do as you please I dont care if is with the same gender different gender who cares. I speak for myself and I wouldnt feel comfortable doing that neither would my dh and that is that.

Quoting Radame N Angela Robles:" So yall get extra excited for the winter season lol, so do you have certain places to meet people or yall already know the couple you like and see them every winter?"

We go to a club. It's called Club Sesso. You can look it up, Clubsesso.com. Yes ron Jeremy is a co-owner but it's not sleazy like him. lol It's actually really nice. And yes the food there is awesome! I wouldn't eat there the first couple times but it rocks. The people that go are also really nice. Everyone is open and friendly no matter your size, age, or sexual preference. It's awesome seeing so many people have a blast and respect each other. We also like the club because despite what you'd think men are NEVER inappropriate! If a man acts out there in any way they are thrown out with out any question. And they have a lot of security there to make sure that there is only fun and no foul play.
We still go out during the summer just not as much. We do have two couples that we talk to more/ hangout with. One lives in 4 hours from and and the husband is super busy so we only meet up so often. The other couple has a family to so it can be really hard to meet up. But we always hit it off really well and have a blast.
We usually just hook up at the club. They have rooms and you can do just about anything you want there, except be creepy. haha that's really one of the rules there. But we have had friends over once-our kids were somewhere else of course.
You can ask just about anything you want.

Quoting Tarynosaurus Rex:" Why does it suck if it doesn't affect you?"

Because I am judged as being closed minded for it not being for me. I was told this once before in my every day life. When my cheated on me, I was told to "get over it. Who cares if she's been with anyone else but you?" So I just have to suck it up and like the fact that she's been with another guy? How is that alright? I didn't consent to this. I know that this is not the topic, but I have been judged(not here) by someone who believes me to be a prude because I don't like the fact that I walked in my wife being railed by another dude.

If it's not something you're comfortable with, you can't help that. I know I, personally, would NEVER go for it in my relationship. But there are couples that can, and I say more power to them.

Quoting JohnSilverSmith:" Because I am judged as being closed minded for it not being for me. I was told this once before in my ... [snip!] ... by someone who believes me to be a prude because I don't like the fact that I walked in my wife being railed by another dude. "

Whatever someone does on their own with another adult's consent is their business. But when it destroys a marriage and causes damage to someone's professional life, then it no longer qualifies as being a private matter. If this is something that folks enjoy, then that is for them to decide. I wasn't given any part of decision in this matter with my marriage and it sucks. I'm not judging other's actions here, I hate that I've been unfairly judged by people(not here) who have a twisted set of morals. It is ABSOLUTELY not ok for my wife to have sex with another man without my consent and then to expect me to forgive and forget. That's completely ludicrous.

Quoting JohnSilverSmith:" Because I am judged as being closed minded for it not being for me. I was told this once before in my ... [snip!] ... by someone who believes me to be a prude because I don't like the fact that I walked in my wife being railed by another dude. "

That's not even what this thread is about...

Quoting JohnSilverSmith:" Whatever someone does on their own with another adult's consent is their business. But when it destroys ... [snip!] ... wife to have sex with another man without my consent and then to expect me to forgive and forget. That's completely ludicrous."

See?? There you go judging. "A twisted set of morals" according to YOU. Just because someone else doesn't think it's a big deal, it doesn't make them any less moral than you and it doesn't mean their morals are "twisted". It just means that they are DIFFERENT. This is exactly the judgmental attitude that a lot of us are talking about. You sit there and rant about how you are judged as "closed-minded", but you are judging others as "twisted" and morally defunct just because THEY are different.

Is that not the pot calling the kettle black??

Quoting ~*Flibbertigibbet*~:" See?? There you go judging. "A twisted set of morals" according to YOU. Just because someone else doesn't ... [snip!] ... others as "twisted" and morally defunct just because THEY are different. Is that not the pot calling the kettle black??"

what?