Not sure what to do ...

Okay so longer story short my ex and i have been separated since July. After an engagement and 8 yrs and also a child later. He cheated btw. Since then he goes back and forth between flirting with me and portraying he misses me. And our family. But when i try to see how serious he says we really need to sit and talk. Well everynight no matter what after maybe 8pm he stops responding. Always says hes busy and he will text or call me later. I fall for it but he never does it. I cant help but feel he is hiding something a gf or something. Not sure if he means what he says or he just tells me those things so i dont ignore him or his own personal gain. Tax time for instance. I want things to be solid for our 2 yr old and our son on the way but i cant continue dealing with this. Feel like im losing my mind!

Once a cheater,always a cheater.

Don't fake a relationship for your kid. They'll be happier without that drama. I PROMISE that.

sounds pretty fishy to me.

Thanks ladies i agree. Not sure why he just doesnt tell me hes dating or whatever he is doing we already aren't together so im stuck on why he feels the need to emotional play games.

Quoting Dominique Lavetti:" Thanks ladies i agree. Not sure why he just doesnt tell me hes dating or whatever he is doing we already aren't together so im stuck on why he feels the need to emotional play games."

Maybe he's got low self esteem and tries to get as much attention as he can?

Maybe .... He does have a huge ego. He just confuses me knowing we can be just parents no extra stuff he always starts with me. Calling me pet names and expressing feelings but he never answers the phone at night. Instead at work when he really shouldnt be on the phone considering his job is hands on he can text and talk his entire work day. I figure he is doing something and his story and excuses that he does nothing maybe hang with the guys is a lie. Who cant send a simple text nowadays? Unless theres someone your around you dont want to see you text.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kati ♥:</b>" Once a cheater,always a cheater."</blockquote>




^^^^
Yep!

Actually, I don't think the "once a cheater, always a cheater" is always true.
I feel like people cheat if they're not getting what they need out of the relationship, and it's a symptom of an unhealthy or unhappy relationship.
I've cheated in a relationship, but would never dream of doing it again. Why? Because I was so unhappy. It was wrong.. absolutely. I regret it even though it wasn't too serious with that guy. It was just wrong. However, like I said, I'd never dream of cheating in my current relationship. So I don't think that's fair to say if someone cheats once, they always will. Some people, not all.
Have you stopped to ask him what gives?
I mean... it sounds shady but you deserve to know what's really going on.

Sounds like he's too busy sleeping next to another woman, so thats why he cant talk to you at night.

He is playing you and putting you off so that you will stick around. He's telling you what you want to hear then not following through so he can "keep you" as a backup option and then do what he wants too. Let him go and move on. If he were serious about missing his family, he would be making efforts to keep it together.

Thank you girls for your feedback. I do ask him Whats up but he gives me constant excuses as to why he cant respond ... Mainly he was busy with something. Sounds like someone right? I dont agree with the once a cheater always one because i have done it before too due to unhappiness but i would never do it again as well. I think he is hiding being with someone but we live about 5 hrs apart so if he wants a relationship he could just be honest. I guess not. I definitely agree that he was keeping me as an option if what he's doin now doesnt work out. And trying to smooch me up so tax time because i have our childs ssn so he cant claim her he wants to split the amount back even though ive had her ALL yr providing and trips to the ER. Sadly i think when i give birth to our son he wont be around because of the lifestyle he chooses to live. Our 2 yr old will miss out too he seems too involved in partying and his friends and girls apparently. Definitely going to move on.