A friend of mine is livid that her BD (was boyfriend until a week ago) is asking for a DNA test when her baby is born. He said he will be there for the pregnancy and the birth but will not sign anything until DNA proves he is the father, a test he said he has no problem paying for. She just found out, she is only 7 weeks according to the doctor. But I agree with him because she cheated on him (according to her 2 times in a 10 day span with one man) in the beginning of October. He found out through Facebook messages, she left one from the other man open and they share a computer. He doesn't believe her because she obviously broke his trust and then didn't come clean until she got caught.

Do you think he is wrong? It is causing great turmoil in my friendship because she keeps wanting me to tell her he is a deadbeat, but the situation (told to me by her) would give me doubt too if I was a man.

Sounds like she doesn't think that it's his.

He is absolutely not wrong.

Can't blame with him one bit!

<blockquote><b>Quoting tinana +2:</b>" He is absolutely not wrong. "</blockquote>

I can't call him a deadbeat because he said he will be involved in the pregnancy and delivery (providing she wants him there) because if it is his he doesn't want to have missed all of that.

He is not wrong in anyway. If she really thinks it's his then she would do it knowing the out come. A dead beat dad wouldn't technically ask for a DNA and then say he would be there for the pregnancy and the birth if he didn't care.

Just tell her, if she's sure the baby is his then she shouldn't care. She should be fine with doing the test and proving he's the father. Otherwise she should jsust deal with it and stop whining I guess

He'd be stupid not to get one.

He's smart. If she has a problem with it then she is just scared it will come back as him not being the father

He should definitely get one. He is not wrong

I don't blame him and she should not be mad at him for wanting a DNA test. Honestly if the child just happens to not be his, the real father deserves to know he has a child, and the child deserves to know who their father is *well when the child is old enough. Just out of respect for everyone, she should allow the test. I'm not going to bash her for cheating, we all learn by our mistakes, unfortunately for her a baby is in the mix of it all. I just hope she understands the guys point of view on the situation and don't turn it into a dramatic Jerry Springer thing. She has a baby to think about, and when the results come in, I hope she deals with it well. It is what it is :-) A week after our son was born my husband kept commenting that our son did not look like him, that our son had some of my features but also had pointy ears. We did not argue about it or anything, but after a few days of those comments I politely offered to have a blood test done, and that there was NO way our son had a different father unless i was the next virgin Mary. I let him know I would set it all up to prove it to him. I'll admit I cheated on a previous boyfriend I had a few years before I met my husband, but I have never and will never cheat on my husband. I learned my lesson on the whole cheating thing. And I did go to another room to cry over my husbands comments where he wouldn't see me, but i bit my tongue on lashing out at him. But after talking to him about it and offering the test, he decided not to get the test done. After a few weeks my sons features started changing and now he is the spitting image of my husband and I now pick on him about it. At the end of the day it feels better to be the bigger person and not let our emotions get in the way. Do what needs to be done, take care of things and in the end it will work it's self out. :-)