rant....

I'm just going to rant for a minute or two... Sunday I found out my boyfriend/fiance/whatever you would call him now, has been hanging out with multiple girls (and lying about it when asked directly), decided to buy 90 dollars worth of weed (even though he promised he wouldn't smoke anymore), has been drinking (quite a bit), has been cuddling and kissing other girls (the day I went to the hospital and he told me he had to work), and apparently wants to sleep with other girls before the baby comes (which is in February). Ugh. And to make it all worse I had to hear all of this from his best friend. And today I went to the ER, because I passed out at work, and he only called me to ask why the hospital was calling him saying I was there. It turns out I'm anemic and have high blood pressure. Guess where he was, with that stupid girl that he says is only his friend. AGH! I have no idea what to do anymore. I told him I'd had enough and when he decided to grow up he could see his son, until then I'm not speaking to him. So looks like I'm gonna be a single mom.

Yeah...please don't stay with that.

Screw that guy. Jerkface.

I fully understand you not wanting to be with him or have a relationship with him. But it would be incredibly wrong and hateful for you to keep his child from him because of the relationship you have. Not trying to be a bitch but you seriously need to rethink what you're saying you're going to do. The only person that will truely suffer is the child because his father would be kept from him.

I just really don't understand how anyone could do that... I'm 27 weeks and he's just now deciding to act up... I don't even know what to do anymore. I'm absolutely terrified to do this on my own...

Quoting wilde_mommy:" I fully understand you not wanting to be with him or have a relationship with him. But it would be incredibly ... [snip!] ... saying you're going to do. The only person that will truely suffer is the child because his father would be kept from him."

And I wasn't talking about forever. Just until he decided to grow up a little. I feel like if he's going to hurt me like this then he'll probably hurt our baby too... But maybe I'm just being irrational.

Quoting Brooke Bush:" I just really don't understand how anyone could do that... I'm 27 weeks and he's just now deciding to act up... I don't even know what to do anymore. I'm absolutely terrified to do this on my own..."

It's hard to be a single parent but you can do it. You just need to be strong. Do you have a good support group, friends family? I hope he comes to his senses. Good luck

Quoting Brooke Bush:" And I wasn't talking about forever. Just until he decided to grow up a little. I feel like if he's going ... [snip!] ... I feel like if he's going to hurt me like this then he'll probably hurt our baby too... But maybe I'm just being irrational."

Eh you're pregnant and hormonal, you're allowed to be irrational at times   It sounds like you guys need to either sit down and have a serious talk and maybe some space for awhile.

Sounds like a complete ass. You don't need him in your life or the extra stress he is causing you, its not healthy for you or the baby. Spend the rest of your pregnancy focusing on you and your little man and getting everything ready. Plus being a single mom can be trying but it is worth it. If you ever want to talk feel free to pm me.

Definitely kick him out of your life... but consider keeping him in your Lo's life. I'm sorry that he is being so smurffy especially at this point in your pregnancy. Perhaps he is nervous? whatever his reason is, you dont deserve it and it shows terrible character.

e-hugs.

I've tried the whole talking thing, and he makes that face that he always makes and it breaks my heart being mad at him...

You need to do what you think is best. Just remember he will be the male role model for your son. Would you want your son to someday think it is okay to treat his gf/fiance/wife that way? It is definitely complicated and I am sorry you are going through this.

I understand you not wanting to put up with that anymore, good for you. you have enough going on without having to deal with all of that. it'll be best for you to just walk away, from my experience his behavior will only get worse from here.

i also understand you telling him he cant see his son unless he grows up. ive said it to SO before, though i said it purely out of anger during an argument and i made sure to apologize repeatedly and make sure he knows it was said ONLY because of anger. just because hes a dick to you doesnt mean he wont be a good father, give him a chance with his son.

My aunt has four kids three different fathers and she just found a descent guy. She was on her own for a while but you can only take so much smurf from smurfheads. You are definitely better off and you will find someone who'll treasure you and your lo.
BUT don't go out of your way to make him be a father. If he wants to be there great but if not your lo might not like being forced to be around the ass when he gets older. I know I never liked seeing my bio-father because he either was half baked or his wife(now ex) made him. And I always looked at my mom and dad(step) as the bad guys for forcing me to spend time with him.
Like I said it'll be hard but you are strong enough to do it! :-)

Thank you all for the support. I'm glad I'm getting it from somewhere, I feel like I can't talk to my parents or my family about this because I really just don't want them to hate him. And as for the telling him he can't see his son, that was out of anger. I made sure I told him that and apologized, because whether he grows up or not he's still my baby's father and he at least deserves a chance to prove he can be a good one.