re: How to... with MIL?

Quoting lil*Mama*Bear™:" <blockquote><b>Quoting P Pickle Pants:</b>" You're a grown up, why the hell don't YOU tell her? FFS, you aren't helpless!"</blockquote> So why is it only my responsibility?"

Because that's your son....Honestly if i was in that situation i would've went off on her the second she put her hands on my child.

<blockquote><b>Quoting P Pickle Pants:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting lil*Mama*Bear™:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting P Pickle ... [snip!] ... her that that is not how I parent. If she continues, I state clearly that I won't accept it. No drama. No waiting for DH."</blockquote>




I'm not the only one. It's that he doesn't know what to do. He has vented to me about her yelling at LO before. she denied it when it was finally brought up and got all upset.

Quoting lil*Mama*Bear™:" <blockquote><b>Quoting P Pickle Pants:</b>" You're a grown up, why the hell don't YOU tell her? FFS, you aren't helpless!"</blockquote> So why is it only my responsibility?"

its definitely not only yours, dont think that at all. But sometimes it takes you doing something for him to do it as well ya know? if he sees you letting it slide, he will continue. Men need a push, we're woman, natural pushers -==P

<blockquote><b>Quoting Chim Richalds:</b>" I think her expecting DH to do it when he is there is totally acceptable. Maybe it is just with MY mil, ... [snip!] ... attacks me and the way I raised my family and is so disrespectful." If HE says something, she will probably consider it more."</blockquote>




Cuz the bond is different. And we aren't actually married yet. But it's easier to say MIL.

I try to be understanding to the fact that Grandma is grandma and will give "treats". it's just one of those things. If he is not being hurt by it and it's not all the time I dont' see the harm. If she refuses to listen at all, then you have problem. your the mother. Tell her no. The hitting is another matter. If she can't not hit, then she doesn't need to see him