re: Your SO is tampering with your BC....D/D

<blockquote><b>Quoting Kati Iss Rollinn:</b>" It's true though."</blockquote>



Yep but hardly anybody likes to admit it

Women do the same thing but in those cases, the men don't have a way out if she decides to go through with the pregnancy. It's smurffy on both sides--when men and women both do it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting sταrry skies:</b>" Women do the same thing but in those cases, the men don't have a way out if she decides to go through with the pregnancy. It's smurffy on both sides--when men and women both do it."</blockquote>


Definitely agree

Quoting sταrry skies:" Women do the same thing but in those cases, the men don't have a way out if she decides to go through with the pregnancy. It's smurffy on both sides--when men and women both do it."

But in the cases of when men don't want children, they should be responsible for their own BC.

If I was on birth control, then I'd be adament about NOT having babies (can't get tubes tied), then I'd probably abort. I thought we were having PROTECTED sex. I'd leave my SO for lying to me.

Someone brought up a good point about it being tampering with someones meds if they messed with the BC pills, I think thats a really grey area - the condom thing, yeah I don't think anyone could get in trouble there, but I am seriously clueless as to the laws when it comes to messing with someones medicines, because if there ARE laws, this seems like it would fall under it.

Morally, I don't think it's right whether it's the man or woman doing it and lying, but that's just a thought I had with this situation.

If this happened to ME (which I don't see myself ever saying no to a baby  ) I would definitely be keeping the baby and I probably wouldn't leave, but there would be counseling involved because there would be some serious trust issues to make up for.

Quoting LolaMcKitten:" Someone brought up a good point about it being tampering with someones meds if they messed with the BC ... [snip!] ... wouldn't leave, but there would be counseling involved because there would be some serious trust issues to make up for. "

Yeah, see, thats my only "maybe." I mean, if you tampered with someones pills for an illness, and that caused them harm, you'd be in big trouble. So, is a baby "harm?" I mean, by messing with their medication you caused them to get pregnant and incur the costs and risks associated with that. If we were talking about a diabetic who became very ill because someone messed with their insulin, it would be a no brainer.

Quoting she nan igans:" Yeah, see, thats my only "maybe." I mean, if you tampered with someones pills for an illness, and that ... [snip!] ... If we were talking about a diabetic who became very ill because someone messed with their insulin, it would be a no brainer. "

Exactly. I think someone would need to make an actual court case of this for there to be some kind of legal ruling here because I can;t seem to find anything about birth control specifically.

Quoting she nan igans:" Yeah, see, thats my only "maybe." I mean, if you tampered with someones pills for an illness, and that ... [snip!] ... If we were talking about a diabetic who became very ill because someone messed with their insulin, it would be a no brainer. "

A woman with endometriosis who uses BC could be negatively affected if the BC was switched. Or a woman with a history of ectopic/ high risk pregnancies.

Quoting Back to Noob Status:" A woman with endometriosis who uses BC could be negatively affected if the BC was switched. Or a woman with a history of ectopic/ high risk pregnancies."

Exactly. That's sort of my point. I could see how it could fall under that. Then again, I supposed the opposite would be saying that (as far as history of ectopic or high risk pregnancy) that becoming pregnant was still a risk, even when on BC, and thus a risk the person took when having sex.

I'm not saying that's right, or would work, but it's the logical argument against them being in trouble for it.

It's for sure a legal grey area I think. . .

Quoting she nan igans:" Exactly. That's sort of my point. I could see how it could fall under that. Then again, I supposed ... [snip!] ... would work, but it's the logical argument against them being in trouble for it. It's for sure a legal grey area I think. . ."

I agree. I can definitely see both sides of the issue, and I'm not saying a man should or shouldn't be charged, but messing with someone's meds like that could really screw someone's health.

Sadly, I have heard of situations of SOs screwing with their girlfriends' BC.

Quoting she nan igans:" Yeah, see, thats my only "maybe." I mean, if you tampered with someones pills for an illness, and that ... [snip!] ... If we were talking about a diabetic who became very ill because someone messed with their insulin, it would be a no brainer. "

I guess it would matter how long and how well i though i knew the person. Like some random guy i started dating that turned into a sycopath (sorry about misspelling) and tampered with my pill to try to get my pregnant i would probably end up keeping the baby, but would press charges if i could. But if it was my Fiance of 4 years and is the father of my child, he wants another child and i am unsure at the moment if the timing is right id be pissed at him for it. but probably wouldn't press charges

I'd leave and probably abort.

I'd leave his nutty ass.
I have no idea what I'd do about the pregnancy.

And I probably wouldn't press charges tbh.

I really can't fathom the number of women who would actually stay.