Do you still struggle??

Hi ladies.. just here again with some at home issues like everyone of course... i feel like since we had DD 2 its been even worse.. our sex life is maybe 2 -3 times a month if that..
we are always tired we have so many things to do at home laundry..kids.. wash..cook..chores bills... its too much and we have lost our connection! SO and i just got into it yet again because we always seem to fall back on who did what and whoe does more for the other and you dont do this for me anymore you never change when you say you do..this and that.. Oh and when we talked about this a while ago he said he is tired of being the nice guy.. wtf does that mean.. your my husband its not a yes or no thing..

i seriously feel in the 5 years we have been married!! they have been harder than the 5 years we dated!! SERIOUSLY! LOL what can i we do he doesnt want to do counceling and i dont want to ever consider divorce... nor taking a break... do you feel like with a 2nd or 3rd child things do get harder between you and SO.. we try balalncing things out but he doesnt smile anymore...

he doesnt cuddle or hug anymore its like he lost that spark... what can i do... i feel like its all my fault and im tired of feeling that its always.. my fault.. thanks laides...

go out on dates. that helps SO and I

Not much I can say on this because when me and SO's sex life was coming around to only 1 time per month all the blame was on me.

Then I started to read 50 Shades of Grey....

I found like and infomercial now but Im dead serious! We smurfed like rabbits for two weeks!
And I also seem to get more horny after an evening of 420.  

Quoting Adnap:" Not much I can say on this because when me and SO's sex life was coming around to only 1 time per month ... [snip!] ... now but Im dead serious! We smurfed like rabbits for two weeks! And I also seem to get more horny after an evening of 420.  "

well i do want to please him... keep him happy of course thats a womans job but i guess a little wine will do for me and a beer for him... try that thanks

Quoting ☮ Phuket:" go out on dates. that helps SO and I"

i told him that because "I'm" the one that always suggest things to do for us he NEVER says hey lets get ready and lets go out.. not even to a movie... he always says well i dont know i have to wait till all the bills are paid and then we will see.. and he never comes around to it.. so its like.. WTH??

Quoting 2Girls & Blessed:" i told him that because "I'm" the one that always suggest things to do for us he NEVER says hey lets ... [snip!] ... know i have to wait till all the bills are paid and then we will see.. and he never comes around to it.. so its like.. WTH??"

He may be serious about the bills/affording situation.

I wish my SO was that aware of money and how fast it spends >.>

Maybe inform him that Amazon.com has a Sexual Wellness department and let him look at your wishlist ;) Or try sexting rofl. Anything that will jumpstart him.

You've confirmed my thoughts on another child..    

But seriously, especially with him being in the military, we don't get dates or "us" time. When we're visiting home, our life is nearly perfect. I get to see my friends, he sees his, we spend time alone together, we go out together, and we never have to worry about finding a babysitter.. and our sex life ends up being awesome.   You would think he would have thought about all of that before reenlisting. But, not having a guaranteed job getting out, won that one for him.