Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" If you honestly can't stay in the same house without it being explosive, then yes, you probably need ... [snip!] ... then get together and talk about those things. I'm curious though, your Councilor hasn't taught you communication techniques?"
Thats the thing through our 3 years of counseling we were even in a program that helps you specifically with communication and fighting fair tips that last an entire year. Before we went back to regular marraige counseling but with my husband he likes to say the meanest most vile things when he's angry and then 10 min later act like everything is fine. He hates when I go anywhere or do anything without him or without telling him and constantly combs through my twitter and facebook to read anything I write and complains about it if he feels it was directed toward him.