HUGE age difference...

Between my expected LO and my other two. My oldest will be 14 and my youngest will be nearly 12 when my LO is born. It makes me nervous moreso about the 12 year old because she is the baby and her BF has never had anything to do with her so my DH is the only father she has ever known (we've been together since she was 2 1/2) and I worry she will be exceptionally jealous of the LO because of this.

Anyone had similar situation? Thoughts? Advice? anything?

as long as u both make her feel specail in her new role as a big sister everything should be fine  

Quoting 6 blessings so far....:" as long as u both make her feel specail in her new role as a big sister everything should be fine  "

Thanks I really hope so  

I have two step sons who are 14 and almost 11. Our kids together are 4 and 4 weeks. Its an adjustment, and the 12 yr old will have a hard time im sure. Just keep reassuring them that you still love them and try to get the 12 yr old to help out with the baby and stuff s shes not feeling left out

It will be fine. I'm 12 years older then my sister and I loved having a baby around. Perhaps its different being the parent though.

My SIL has a daughter that is 22yrs old and a daughter that is 5 months old. Her daughter is now pregnant, so my 5 month old niece is going to be an aunt before shes a year and a half old!

Quoting Amberchik78:" I have two step sons who are 14 and almost 11. Our kids together are 4 and 4 weeks. Its an adjustment, ... [snip!] ... them that you still love them and try to get the 12 yr old to help out with the baby and stuff s shes not feeling left out"

Thank you that makes me feel better already! I am sure it will all work out in it's own time, I am just a worrier!

My brother and I are 10 years apart, and I'd say my childhood went pretty normally. I loved having a big brother! You should really have nothing to worry about.  

Make her feel a part of the family, and don't throw all the responsibility on her. She should be able to help if she wants to, but it's annoying when your parents have a kid and you have to care for it. My mom had a child her second marriage and I remember it being so much worse because I was 13 years older and she made me do everything, like it was my kid.

It'll be fine, I am 18 years older than my brother. and there is 6 years between my self and my "oldest" younger sister. and then there are others in between, lol.

Quoting *Tegan's Mommy*:" It'll be fine, I am 18 years older than my brother. and there is 6 years between my self and my "oldest" younger sister. and then there are others in between, lol."

And I love them all. The age difference doesnt change the fact that they are your siblings and no matter what theyll still be loved. Honestly, I am more protective of the younger ones.

Thanks everyone for your help! I worry so much more about the 12 year old cause she is so sensitive and both my husband and I have noticetd she is more attentive to us and stuff since finding out about the new baby coming. I am sure it will be an adjustment for her but will all work out in the end  

Quoting 3rdxsacharm:" Between my expected LO and my other two. My oldest will be 14 and my youngest will be nearly 12 when ... [snip!] ... worry she will be exceptionally jealous of the LO because of this. Anyone had similar situation? Thoughts? Advice? anything?"

I dont know if this is going to help at all but worth a shot

My brother & I are 8 years apart. My father & his father are different. My biological father left when I was 6 weeks old and then when I turned 2 mymom met my 'dad' and he adopted me when i was 3. My brother cam into the picture when I was 8 - there wasn't much resentment or jealousy - i had issues here and there about like things being different but nothing huge.

After a year or so my 'dad' and his family turned on me and paid WAY more attention to my brother, for example birthday he would get more money then me (still to this day my bday was in September I got $50 his birth was the 28th of this month and he got $100) ... when my 'dad' would complain to his parents about problems with me they would tell him things such as "why worry about her she isn't even your child". So my 'dad' and his family changed after my brother was born. I would just try and keep things VERY normal and make sure she isn't treated differently and I am sure things will be fine.

Quoting Miss Ashley +2:" I dont know if this is going to help at all but worth a shot My brother & I are 8 years apart. ... [snip!] ... I would just try and keep things VERY normal and make sure she isn't treated differently and I am sure things will be fine. "

That does help actually! I know my husband won't ever change towards my kids, but we have already had issues with some of his family members in the past treating my kids different then they do other kids in the family (our marriage hasn't always been 100% and we actually split up for a month a few years ago and since then my kids don't get treated like they are his like they used to by my MIL). I think her biggest concern is cause at our last ultrasound the doctor said it was a girl (though I am not 100% convinced he was right) and I think that is when I started noticing my DD acting different. Maybe she is worried she won't be daddy's little girl?? hmmm