Are you afriad?

I've been reading all of these stories about dads/SOs shaking their partners babies... Are you ever afraid that your DH/SO/BD might lose his temper and shake or harm your child? Have you ever thought... "He couldn't possibly hurt him/her... but what if he DOES get too frustrated?"

I've honestly never been worried about that with Matthew. He's just a gentle person without much of a temper.

No bc SO has two other kids he absolutely adores. I think it is natural to think it may be a possibility, but personally I trust SO or i wouldn't have let him get me pregnant.

Nope, never. He loves her so much and is so good with her and is so overprotective, I couldn't imagine him ever doing that to her.

No my SO would never do that.

Yes but my DH also has bipolar/manic depression and has already snapped once and 'hurt' me(long story) so it is always in the back of my mind. He is on tons of meds to control his bipolar and depression so hopefully it will never happen.

But what if they did? I mean we can all sit here and say they never could, they love them too much, they're too over protective, etc.

In the case of Cheyanne (have you heard it?) all the same things were said about her father and now she will never be the same because he shook her. I mean just because we think all that and they love them... but have you ever been afraid of it happening?

Quoting Mom of 3 Little Boys!:" Yes but my DH also has bipolar/manic depression and has already snapped once and 'hurt' me(long story) ... [snip!] ... always in the back of my mind. He is on tons of meds to control his bipolar and depression so hopefully it will never happen."

See I get a little worried DH will lose his temper and spank a little too hard or something. I don't think it would ever happen, I always tell myself he loves them too much, cares about them too much, etc. But it's always in the back of my mind that it COULD happen. Make sense?

My husband is very calm and laid back and has more patience than I do. I don't think he'd ever be able to do something like that. One of my favorite things about him is how calm he is.

Quoting Milk Monster:" See I get a little worried DH will lose his temper and spank a little too hard or something. I don't ... [snip!] ... loves them too much, cares about them too much, etc. But it's always in the back of my mind that it COULD happen. Make sense?"

Yep. Perfect sense. I think the same thing about myself too. I know I would never hurt a fly but that doesn't mean I couldn't snap myself and do it. When my DH snapped, he doesn't remember anything about what happened that night. He says its like snap shots from what I have told him. It was not a good night.

Quoting Milk Monster:" But what if they did? I mean we can all sit here and say they never could, they love them too much, they're ... [snip!] ... he shook her. I mean just because we think all that and they love them... but have you ever been afraid of it happening?"

Your right it could happen. But no I personally am not afraid of it happening. My SO is extremely calm gentle person. He is half the time scared picking her up, changing her etc. because he thinks he is going to hurt her since she is so little. I could never see him doing something like that.

Quoting Mom of 3 Little Boys!:" Yep. Perfect sense. I think the same thing about myself too. I know I would never hurt a fly but that ... [snip!] ... anything about what happened that night. He says its like snap shots from what I have told him. It was not a good night."

At least I'm not the only one! Sometimes I'm worried I'll snap too! I was feeling horrible because I worry that it could happen it could be me, my husband, aunts, uncles, anyone. I worry so much when I leave my kids.

I do wish I had more patience sometimes but I know when to walk away and i'd like to think that J would too. I raised my son by myself for the first year and a half of his life and I know there were times I got super overwhelmed but never to the point of being afraid of hurting my baby. I'd just set him in his seat and take a breather.

Quoting ☣Rach☣:" I do wish I had more patience sometimes but I know when to walk away and i'd like to think that J would ... [snip!] ... super overwhelmed but never to the point of being afraid of hurting my baby. I'd just set him in his seat and take a breather. "

That's what I've had to do a few times since having my daughter. She was very colicky! Plus with a screaming 2 yr old? But I knew when to walk away, I couldn't help thinking but what if he doesn't? You know? I feel horrible for thinking that...

I've also been afraid that I would just snap from lack of sleep and constant scrreaming.

I get nervous because SO isn't very patient. Gets frustrated easily when she cries.
I believe he wouldn't but at the same time it is in the back of my head.