getting discouraged

I'm getting really depressed and discouraged about not getting pregnant yet. We have been trying since march and month after month we just get more and disappointed. That year mark just keeps getting closer and I'm getting worried. And I have nobody to talk to about it because we're making it a surprise for family and friends.
We tried keeping a chart for it then it wasn't working so we stopped for a couple of months then started again and it's just not happening. Everybody around me is getting pregnant. There are at least 5 people that I work with that are pregnant. My best friend just found out that they're pregnant. Friends on facebook are pregnant and I just can't help but feel like I'm the only one that it can't happen to.
I don't know, it's just all bottling up because I don't have anyone to talk to going through the same thing. Ugh, sorry I just need to talk to someone about it or I'm just going to break.  

I'm sorry mama   we're secretly ttc too (irl it's a secret) and I just found out my cousin is pregnant and due around when I should've been due had I been pregnant this cycle.

It takes healthy couples a year or a little more to get pregnant.
relax.

Stop stressing it & a healthy cycle takes a year or more to get pregnant.

Aw! It is tough when you're ready but it just isn't happening. The good news is that since you already have a child you know that you are fertile and you body is capable of carrying a baby to term. If you and DH are both under 35 then I wouldn't worry about it, just try to keep it fun and it will happen when it is meant to.

If you want to chart then one book that I found really useful was Taking Charge of Your Fertility which uses temperature, cervical position, and cervical fluid as indicators. I think that the 3 factors are much more acurate than just temperature - which most people chart with.

it'll happen when you least expect it. It took us 7 months and finally we just stopped trying. We started actually enjoying ourselves instead of worrying about it, and then the following month I got that positive! Just relax a little.  

Thanks ladies. I know that it usually takes a year for healthy couples, it's just frustrating! And we do enjoy ourselves! We definitely aren't making it a chore just to get pregnant. We're both just so ready! It's upsetting!

I know how upsetting it is. We've been trying since we lost our son in December. I've had a few issues along the way and I just recently got a positive for ovulation since my surgery and I was hopin since it was a strong ovulation it may be the one I needed. But it's looking bleek again this time. I know everyone tells you to relax and it'll happen but I've tried the whole relax thing. I've even forgotten about it for a while. I bought my husband some fertility blend for men the other day. I'm thinking of getting the woman's one to go along with it. It's natural so it's not tough on the body. So if you feel like you could use a jump get something like that. It's sorta pricey. I paid 43.00 for his and it will be the same for me.

I was on depo-provera for 7 years. Two and half years ago, SO and I decided we wanted to let nature take it's course, and would TTC. Well, at first, we weren't actively "trying". After the first year, we started getting a little worried, so then we did start "trying" - by watching for my periods (which were very irregular due to the depo still in my system) and having sex whenever I figured I was ovulating. It got to the point that we were considering having to get ourselves tested to see if it was something wrong with one of us.

So, we stopped "trying" after two years. I went on vacation this summer, thought I had the flu and spent most of my time in bed. After having "the flu" for about 3 weeks, a friend recommended I buy a HPT. The 2nd line was so light, that I had to ask the pharmacist to verify if it was a positive. I left in tears, planning on how to tell SO that he was finally going to be a daddy. The dating ultrasound showed that I was already 12 weeks pregnant! LOL

For us, after 1 year of trying, and 2 years off BC, we're excited to become first time parents on March 5th. It happened once we stopped trying. And from what I've heard, that seems to happen quite often. Maybe it's because the pressure/stress of TTC has been removed... maybe it was just not yet our "time"... whatever it was, we are so happy. And I just know that the same will be true for you, whenever it is supposed to happen.

Best of luck, future-mommy!!

Quoting Samantha ♥ Jayce:" I'm getting really depressed and discouraged about not getting pregnant yet. We have been trying since ... [snip!] ... to talk to going through the same thing. Ugh, sorry I just need to talk to someone about it or I'm just going to break.  "

Just try and relax as others say it can take up to a year or a little longer to get pregnant....It took my husband and I 5 and a half years for our daughter and 3 years 4 months for our son. It didn't get hard until we hit our 3rd year of trying for our daughter and our son when I misscarred last year. Good luck just try and enjoy one another.

With my daughter we started trying in November of 2007, I gave up in August of 2008. In September of 2008, I thought I had the flu. I couldn't get out of bed from dizziness and light sensitive migraine. I took a pregnancy test on a fluke, and it was positive. I conceived at the end of August. Right after I had given up and stopped trying.

It took awhile for us to get pregnant with Emma. All I can say is relax enjoy
And it will all happen when it's supposed too.

Hope al is well with you.
I miss you and love you.

Don't get upset. It'll all be alright.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Barbara Evans.:</b>" It took awhile for us to get pregnant with Emma. All I can say is relax enjoy And it will all happen ... [snip!] ... happen when it's supposed too. Hope al is well with you. I miss you and love you. Don't get upset. It'll all be alright."</blockquote>

Thanks <3 love and miss you too!

We are trying as well and seen a nutritionist who has me on some vitamins and supplements and completely changed my diet. She's worked with other couples ttc and she stands by this method. So we will see how it works I would suggest maybe trying that