Kinda torn..

A few months ago me and DH got into a huge fight. During the argument he brought up a guy friend of mine who lives out of state and said he had seen I was looking at his Facebook profile a few days prior. To shut him up I deleted this friend, though we were close. DH has always been sort of insecure and jealous of him. Idk if it's cause he has the looks of a male model or the way he always jokes with me and picks on me. What's upsetting is that DH has never talked to him and I know they would become friends if he did. After I deleted him DH said I didn't have to do that. Still to this day he will "jokingly" bring up how I want this friend or how I should've married him. I get upset and confront him, but it never stops and he always tells me to calm down he was just kidding around. Idk what to say or do to make him realize that me and him were just friends and that I obviously married him because I love him, not my friend.

Obviously I miss this friend and feel bad for deleting him, especially without warning. I thought about messaging him just to let him know what happened but I'm not sure how to say it and I don't want to upset DH.

Ugh. Why can't everyone just get along? :-/

I think you are taking his joking way too seriously!

DH needs to work on his self esteem issues. It has nothing to do with you, it is something in him that he needs to fix.

I think I would tell DH "yeah, I should of. Maybe dude friend wouldn't be so jealous and obsessive about opposite sex friends."
If my husband notices who I'm looking at on FB then he needs to get a life or maybe do more around the house because that shows me that he has way too much time on his hands!

<blockquote><b>Quoting *B & D Mommy*:</b>" I think you are taking his joking way too seriously! "</blockquote>




I said "joking" because he says it in a serious tone, then claims he's kidding after I get upset.

And honestly there has to be some truth to it based on his past actions. I was simply looking at my friend's profile getting ready to leave a wall post about how we hadn't talked in awhile/asking how he was and DH flipped on me. Anyone else and he wouldn't have cared.

<blockquote><b>Quoting kitermom:</b>" I think I would tell DH "yeah, I should of. Maybe dude friend wouldn't be so jealous and obsessive about ... [snip!] ... he needs to get a life or maybe do more around the house because that shows me that he has way too much time on his hands! "</blockquote>




He wasn't snooping or anything. I left his page up on my phone and DH borrowed my phone for a min because his wasn't working atm.

I wouldn't ruin a friendship over my husband a child. Tell him to get the hell over it.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama to William + 1:</b>" I wouldn't ruin a friendship over my husband a child. Tell him to get the hell over it."</blockquote>




I wish I wouldn't have deleted him, especially after DH said "you didn't have to do that"   but I know if I re-add him an argument may be started and our marriage/life is pretty good right now so I don't wanna ruin the flow of things, I guess. It just sucks I had to lose a friend I was close to over something so stupid.