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He is probably just hurt at the thought of the baby not having his last name. It is a pride thing. I say work it out.

Do what you have to do. If giving your last name is the only way to ensure that your baby will have insurance and be taken care of, then do it. Your baby is your only concern now. He's grown, let him do what he wants.

Why would a last name matter for insurance? Growing up, I didn't have my mom or step-dad's last names, but I was on their insurance.

Well, I mean, threatening to leave over that is pretty silly. But why in the world would the baby need your last name to be on the insurance? Not that I'm an expert, but I've never heard of such a thing.

I'd say leave on the fact that he's not bothered with getting a GOOD job. K-Mart will not support a family. He's being selfish in that he'd rather put his pride before the health of his daughter.
If that's how she can easily get health insurance, then do it. It's the best for her, it's not all about him anymore and he needs to realize that.

Quoting Derpy Hooves:" Why would a last name matter for insurance? Growing up, I didn't have my mom or step-dad's last names, but I was on their insurance."

That's what I was thinking but I wasn't sure. I had my father's last name but was on my mother and step-father's insurance.

I kept DD's last name as mine, SO isn't particularly thrilled.
But like you said a last name can be changed.

Does he know WHY you want the baby to have your Last name?

Last name doesn't matter for insurance purposes. My kids don't have my last name & it's never been a problem.

He will have to sign paperwork stating he is the father before signing the birth certificate & you will also. This is instead of doing a DNA test since your not married. I delivered at Munster Community hospital.

Last name has nothing to do with insurance. However, usually in order for your baby to be covered by your parents' insurance, your parents need to be the custodial guardian of the baby. If your SO isn't working, your child will qualify for a state health insurance program.

<blockquote><b>Quoting *B & D Mommy*:</b>" He is probably just hurt at the thought of the baby not having his last name. It is a pride thing. I say work it out. "</blockquote>




That's what I think too, but damn he hasn't been very supportive and knows this is the last two weeks(nobody thinks ill make it to the 12th, doc said she can touch the baby's head when she checked me Friday) and now he's threatening me. Idk if I should give her my last name because of how crazy everything is right now.. I mean honestly at this point I don't think he really gives two smurfs about me. But if its seriously no difference(with rights and custody) then his last name is fine, I just don't want him getting her for any time I think he's too trusting in his guy friends to watch over her and god forbid if something happened to her because of that. Just scary to think about. I know she is his child too but it's all just too scary to think about. I wasn't planning on giving her my last name but who the hell is he to give me an ultimatum and put even more pressure on me. I'm a first time mom about to explode a little human out and I'm scared smurfless! Hell he might not even be here for the birth of her! He chose to pack his smurf and move out when I was 35 weeks or so.

Quoting xONikki:" I'm 37wks and the baby can come at any time and a scheduled induction for the 12th of December. This ... [snip!] ... stubborn. Idk what I should do, just leave his ass and do what I need as a single mom or take his smurf and see what happens?"

That a pretty smurfed up way to try to get insurance for your kid.

Pretty sure it's not going to work out for you.

The baby doesn't need to have your last name for insurance.

Quoting Fancy Asparagus Beef:" I'd say leave on the fact that he's not bothered with getting a GOOD job. K-Mart will not support a family. ... [snip!] ... easily get health insurance, then do it. It's the best for her, it's not all about him anymore and he needs to realize that."

  This is exactly what I was thinking. If he got a job for the railroad he can get her on insurance and then he wouldn't have to worry about LO not having his last name.

<blockquote><b>Quoting BαƚMαɳ:</b>" Do what you have to do. If giving your last name is the only way to ensure that your baby will have insurance ... [snip!] ... will have insurance and be taken care of, then do it. Your baby is your only concern now. He's grown, let him do what he wants."</blockquote>




That's what I told him! I told him I was going to look into the insurance and he's like "oh you're considering it" I said hell yeah if that means baby can have his insurance. He clicked after that. -.- I'm beyond pissed now.