Would this make you uncomfortable?

Significant other is going on a trip to mexico for his sisters wedding. He said it was a family trip and he was going to take our son. Im not going as I wasnt really invited. Its for a week. Now he says that he isnt taking our son and that a bunch of his buddies are going.

He has a drinking problem. When he drinks he often cant stop and can do things that arent acceptable (earlier in our relationship he had done some cheating when drinking with these specific buddies). He really cut down on his drinking. He stopped all together for a year, now he will have the odd beer on wing night with his co workers but there havent been any drinking related problems. He has told me he cant wait to enjoy the all inclusive drinking in mexico.

Suddenly Im really uncomfortable. When he drinks he makes bad choices. His drinking buddies are going. Hes not taking our son. Its not longer a "family" trip. When I told him I was feeling kind of uncomfortable his reaction was that he wasnt going to change anything about the trip.

It feels kind of like it went from a family trip to a trip with the guys. I dont think hes even staying in the same place as the family now, but he keeps saying Im over reacting because its his sisters wedding. I feel like it WAS a trip for his sisters wedding but now its turned into something else. He paid for the trip completely as well. And he told me he wont be able to contact my son or myself at all for the duration of the trip.

Would this make you feel a little uncomfortable or would you be fine with it? He has named off about 10 of his "buddies" and these people include men and women. None are married or have children, they are mostly his old drinking buddies (they still drink)

he used your son to get you to agree then now he is doing what he planned all along.

Yes I would feel uncomfortable and I wouldn't allow it, why weren't you invited? that is SO rude of his family not to invite you, you're his wife/girlfriend...  sorry you're dealing with this.  

Smurf that. I would be going to Mexico. Haha...but I've had some trust issues in the past (not with current SO)

um, yeah. that owuld not fly.

You can't contact him at all during the trip?  


I would be uncomfortable.

Hell yeah it would. Especially if his old drinking habits led him to cheat. Not acceptable.

Quoting Sophie's dairy cow:" he used your son to get you to agree then now he is doing what he planned all along."

   

I agree with what she said. It seems as if he planned to do this in the first place...I would be extremely upset especially if he cheated before & is saying he can't contact either of you throughout the entire trip. I honestly don't know what you should do about this...

Um yea he wouldnt be going. Plain and simple.

You two are in a relationship and have a child together, you are his family, therefore IMO he shouldnt have tryed to leave you out and go to the wedding. I think that was just his way of wanting to go alone. Now he changes smurf up once you have already agreed he can go.

Wouldnt happen.

I just never got an invite and no one asked me if I wanted to go. I wouldnt have been able to afford it anyway though, 2000$ a ticket? I would have just gone to the one shes having in our country

That would drive me crazy! I can be jealous though. I would especially be worried since he's cheated before. If you're uncomfortable, there's probably good reason. I would throw a fit until I was allowed to go, lol

Quoting Samantha Dickel:" That would drive me crazy! I can be jealous though. I would especially be worried since he's cheated ... [snip!] ... he's cheated before. If you're uncomfortable, there's probably good reason. I would throw a fit until I was allowed to go, lol"

he says everything has already been booked. The wedding is in April though and I doubt its all been booked because I saw on her facebook that she was asking other people if they would be able to make it or not.

Quoting .:Mary1987:.:" he says everything has already been booked. The wedding is in April though and I doubt its all been ... [snip!] ... its all been booked because I saw on her facebook that she was asking other people if they would be able to make it or not."

Oh yea- no. Smurf would be going down in my house. He's lying to you...  

Quoting .:Mary1987:.:" I just never got an invite and no one asked me if I wanted to go. I wouldnt have been able to afford it anyway though, 2000$ a ticket? I would have just gone to the one shes having in our country"

how long have you been together? if my so spent 2 grand of our money and i couldnt afford to go yeah that smurf wouldnt happen. he sounds like a douchbag that blames alcohol on smurfing other women.