Didn't think I would be this upset

I had a miscarriage on thanksgiving on an airplane. Ruined my jeans and had to sit in them for 3 hours before I finally got to get my bags.

When I got there no one cared. Actually my Aunt said "good, it would be rough raising two kids so close together - Think of it as a blessing". I'm a great mom and I was excited about this. Even though it was an accident. I was about 8-10 weeks along but I'm super upset. I didn't show it so I wouldn't ruin my families holiday. I feel like I have no one to tell so I'm telling you. I guess it's time to get my IUD and actually try for one in 3-4 years. I wish I wasn't so heartbroken about this.

I'm sorry   what an awful thing to go through

  I'm so sorry to hear that. And how insensitive of your aunt to say such a thing!

Quoting Disco Llama:" I had a miscarriage on thanksgiving on an airplane. Ruined my jeans and had to sit in them for 3 hours ... [snip!] ... telling you. I guess it's time to get my IUD and actually try for one in 3-4 years. I wish I wasn't so heartbroken about this. "

so sorry huh...if you want a baby you should
try later on is not like your aunt is paying for everything

What a bitch thing of your aunt to say. I'm so sorry for your loss  

I'm so sorry.  

sometimes people say things hoping it makes you feel better (your aunt) it was awfully nice of you to not ruin others holidays but, going through that is tough and it is even tougher when you try to pretend like it does not upset you. I hope you can find some peace with all of this soon. good luck in the future. and pm me if you need to talk. best wishes.

Thanks girls - My aunt has two beautiful children and has been trying for another for a while but keeps having miscarriages (she's over 30 I believe). She was upset with me when I got pregnant the first time. I feel bad for her but I feel like she takes it out on me. I'll try again in a few years, once we get settled in military life. My SO doesn't understand because it was so soon, maybe it's a little silly sense I wasn't even out of my first trimester. My heart just hurts though.

I'm so sorry for your loss and how people reacted. I had people say things like that and it just made it so much worse.

Quoting Mama to William + 1:" I'm so sorry for your loss and how people reacted. I had people say things like that and it just made it so much worse."

It really does. I was just trying to enjoy what was left of my holiday. I had maybe 2 1/2 hours of sleep as well. She also got upset if anyone was giving my son attention. ( "You know, you have other grandkids too") This was the first time my Gran met my son, she maybe held him twice in a week because she was always with my aunts kids. idk I regret flying to see family.

Quoting Disco Llama:" Thanks girls - My aunt has two beautiful children and has been trying for another for a while but keeps ... [snip!] ... because it was so soon, maybe it's a little silly sense I wasn't even out of my first trimester. My heart just hurts though. "

it doesnt matter how soon the misscariage was. it is still something awful, and worth grieving over. do not minimize it. you have every right to feel sad.

Quoting annabelle509:" it doesnt matter how soon the misscariage was. it is still something awful, and worth grieving over. do not minimize it. you have every right to feel sad."

Thanks, I wish people understood how awful I feel.

Quoting Disco Llama:" Thanks, I wish people understood how awful I feel."

A lot of us here do. we have been through it. some way more than others. it is such a sad thing. It is too bad that your family did not understand.

I'm soo sorry for your loss :-( It's not silly to be upset about your loss, regardless of how far along you are...

I should think your aunt would be a bit more understanding considering she knows how horrible it is to suffer a loss... I can't believe she said that to you :-(

Great big giant hugs to you xoxo

Quoting Disco Llama:" It really does. I was just trying to enjoy what was left of my holiday. I had maybe 2 1/2 hours of sleep ... [snip!] ... met my son, she maybe held him twice in a week because she was always with my aunts kids. idk I regret flying to see family. "

She just sounds like an awful person all around! Definitely not something you needed to deal with right then. I'm so sorry.