Quoting Rd.:" I'm not a SAHM but I have been. I do think it's dangerous to rely on someone else 100%, you should always ... [snip!] ... for children and a home. What about when their kids grow up and move out? Imo being a stay at home wife isn't a valid title lol"
I don't agree with that last statement at all.
Kids should be with their mothers first and foremost. My son didn't start daycare until he was 20 months and that's because SO and I broke up and I needed to work more.
We both worked before that but had opposite schedules and had a babysitter a few hours a day when they overlapped. But honestly when I have 3 or 4 kids under the age of 4, yeah I think being a SAHM will be a very fitting title and much cheaper than having them all in daycare and working.
ETA ignore all of that. I just realized you were talking about after the kids grow up lol