my friend and her bf want to have a baby!

They been together for a while now but just had a big issue that kinda has their relationship a little crazy but things are getting back to normal and he always wanted her to have his baby but she as well has an iud well every since this issue occurd he hasnt meantioned it much lately but now she wants to have one what should i tell her to do about it?

Tell her to work on her relationship first. Make sure things are solid and that they're financially stable.

You could tell her that she needs to make those decisions herself.

If she is really going to other people for answer she probably shouldn't do it.

Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" Tell her to work on her relationship first. Make sure things are solid and that they're financially stable."

True that much i have told her but she tells me she is scared to lose him and if he didnt still want a baby he would be more careful but its still all the same she wants to get her iud out and just not tell him and see what happens from there

Quoting Michael Westen:" You could tell her that she needs to make those decisions herself. If she is really going to other people for answer she probably shouldn't do it."

     

Quoting Michael Westen:" You could tell her that she needs to make those decisions herself. If she is really going to other people for answer she probably shouldn't do it."

We have been friends for 20 yrs so its not like its just someone she just became friends with...lol

Quoting NinaBonita:" True that much i have told her but she tells me she is scared to lose him and if he didnt still want ... [snip!] ... be more careful but its still all the same she wants to get her iud out and just not tell him and see what happens from there"

That's a horrible, horrible idea. She's basically wanting to trap him. He should stay for HER, not because she got knocked up. That's just ridiculous. Because if he wants to leave, he's going to and then he will not only be gone, but she will have to be a single parent.

If he has already stopped talking about having kids, he might be rethinking it. He also probably doesn't feel the need to be more careful, because she's already on birth control.

Quoting NinaBonita:" We have been friends for 20 yrs so its not like its just someone she just became friends with...lol"

I don't care. If my best friend called and asked ME if she should have a baby, I would tell her no. Because obviously she is second guessing it. If she can't make the decision herself, then she shouldn't.

Quoting NinaBonita:" True that much i have told her but she tells me she is scared to lose him and if he didnt still want ... [snip!] ... be more careful but its still all the same she wants to get her iud out and just not tell him and see what happens from there"

She's an idiot if she thinks pushing a baby on him will get him to stay. She's also entrapping him if she's going to quit BC and not tell him.

Quoting NinaBonita:" True that much i have told her but she tells me she is scared to lose him and if he didnt still want ... [snip!] ... be more careful but its still all the same she wants to get her iud out and just not tell him and see what happens from there"

Oh GOD. She's one of those  

Let me know how that works out for her.

Quoting Crystal Marie S.:" That's a horrible, horrible idea. She's basically wanting to trap him. He should stay for HER, not because ... [snip!] ... he might be rethinking it. He also probably doesn't feel the need to be more careful, because she's already on birth control."

Thats Very true i told her thats how its would look so just stop and think about it for a min and in due time if its meant to be then it will happen!

Quoting NinaBonita:" True that much i have told her but she tells me she is scared to lose him and if he didnt still want ... [snip!] ... be more careful but its still all the same she wants to get her iud out and just not tell him and see what happens from there"

Because that's not totally smurfed up or anything. Girls like that piss me off. Don't make a man a father if he doesn't smurfing wanna be.

DH's ex wife just got pregnant with her now ex boyfriend without telling him she went off BC. And she's a crazy bitch.

Quoting BαƚMαɳ:" Oh GOD. She's one of those   Let me know how that works out for her."

I can't stand those kinds of women.

Quoting Michael Westen:" I don't care. If my best friend called and asked ME if she should have a baby, I would tell her no. ... [snip!] ... I would tell her no. Because obviously she is second guessing it. If she can't make the decision herself, then she shouldn't."

Everyone thinks different!

Quoting NinaBonita:" Everyone thinks different!"

Seriously it sounds like she has some growing up to do.