Quoting momma melissa85:" I will check those out though. I don't even know where to start with day care. I'm crushed bc she will ... [snip!] ... such a reckless thing. She could have killed my daughter ans she thinks she did nothing wrong, is justifying it and blamed me."
It sounds like the concerns/dangers about daycare outweigh the risk of keeping her there with your mom. I'd just try and talk with her, and let her know you are very concerned about your daughter riding in the car with anyone other than you (that way it doesn't sound like your solely judging her driving)
I work as a nanny and even with a 10 year clean driving record and insurance some parents don't feel comfortable with me driving their child. It doesn't offend me, I understand what they're thinking.