re: i am a horrible mom (vent)

see if u can get a car seat free from somewhere why didnt she have urs a lot of firestations have them free ask wic or something

<blockquote><b>Quoting Lacie Heethuis-Roy:</b>" see if u can get a car seat free from somewhere why didnt she have urs a lot of firestations have them free ask wic or something"</blockquote>




Bc she doesn't have a license or insurance and is not a good driver

<blockquote><b>Quoting I'mOnFire:</b>" Man this is a sticky situation. You have absolutely no one else to watch you daughter? I can't believe ... [snip!] ... when in actuality you aren't! I wish there was some way to help :/ and sorry to say your mom sounds like an ass hole... "</blockquote>




No there is nobody   I was pushing it with my mom and didn't really want her watching her anyway.

My rent is $600 a month which is very cheap for where I live. My car payment is $300 a month and my car insurance is $225. I have tried lowering everything I can. I was thinking i might be able to refinance my car but it was for the longest amount of monthly payments and ive only been paying about 1 1/2 years. My car insurance payments will ho down in may by about $35 a month but in january i have to pay an extra $60 in student loans and i already had a hardship deferment this year. Taxes and health insurance eat about 30% of my check then day care would take half of what ever else I bring home. I feel like such a failure. I mean I make decent money but there just is no way to do it all by myself with no help. If I lose my job then I lose my house, car and everything I have. I don't have any family to move in with. I really am a horrible mom.bc I can't even take care of my child.

My mom is a bitch. It should not surprise me. She chose drugs and prostitution over me as a child.

Quoting momma melissa85:" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'mOnFire:</b>" Man this is a sticky situation. You have absolutely ... [snip!] ... even take care of my child. My mom is a bitch. It should not surprise me. She chose drugs and prostitution over me as a child."

You said your childs father isnt helping you at all right? Take his butt to court for child support, you really need the help and its his responsibility too! Idk about there but here they take your daycare costs into consideration too and have him pay a portion of that as well

<blockquote><b>Quoting Alyssa's mommy [EBFT]:</b>" You said your childs father isnt helping you at all right? Take his butt to court for child support, ... [snip!] ... too! Idk about there but here they take your daycare costs into consideration too and have him pay a portion of that as well"</blockquote>




He doesn't have a job or anything in his name. I tried. You pay $35 and they to.one address and knock. If he doesn't answer or lies about who.he iis then they send a certified letter. If there is no response then they drop the case. That all takes 6 months. You can wait 3 months and apply again with a different address. It is a load of smurf

Quoting momma melissa85:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Alyssa's mommy [EBFT]:</b>" You said your childs father isnt ... [snip!] ... drop the case. That all takes 6 months. You can wait 3 months and apply again with a different address. It is a load of smurf"

Too bad you can't get on any kind of state aid, they track him down and MAKE him pay or put him in jail/take his license. Have you gone down to the child support office and talked to someone there? They should have someone who can help you

<blockquote><b>Quoting Alyssa's mommy [EBFT]:</b>" Too bad you can't get on any kind of state aid, they track him down and MAKE him pay or put him in jail/take ... [snip!] ... license. Have you gone down to the child support office and talked to someone there? They should have someone who can help you"</blockquote>




Yea I had Medicaid and wic well still do until the end of the month but also have to pay for bcbs with lo. That is what the child support office told me. They don't help you here and they don't send them to.jail unless you petition them too after 6 missed payments. If they don't have a job you get $50 a month and that is if they find them and they don't try hard to do it. Alabama sucks ass when it comes to state aid or assistance.