I need help

I'm at my end with my 22 month old. Please excuse my language.

But I'm so smurfing tired of fighting with her at bed time. I cannot smurfing keep her in bed. She's not napping in the day anymore. She wakes up at 8. I feed her, bathe her in an organic lavender oil warm bath, and put her Jammie's on. Then we read a stupid smurfing book. And then bed. This has always been her bed routine. This past month especially she refuses bed. She SCREAMS in her smurfing room for hours. No matter how many times I go in there and put her back in bed, she screams and rolls right out of bed. I put her baby gate up. And she opens her door and smurfing climbs it. She does this until midnight/1 am. I have to be up and out of my house by 4:30 for a 2 hour commute to work. I'm smurfing exhausted fighting with her. She's not having night terrors. Once she's asleep she stays asleep. She's NEVER up until recently fought bed time. Idk what happened. But I'm getting to the point where I have no smurfing clue what to do. It's been 2 and a half hours and she's still smurfing screaming. I even tried transferring her into the other bedroom and she's not having that either. She won't sleep with me and even if she did she moves so much and is such a light sleeper tht when I toss and turn bc of my pregnancy I wake her up and it starts all over. I'm at a loss. I'm frustrated. And I'm tired. And I want her to go to smurfing sleep.

End vent. Please help. Bc I'm almost to the point where I want to lock her in her room and just let her CIO then unlock it when she's asleep.

Have you tried staying in the room until she falls asleep? Not paying any attention to her, just staying there.

<blockquote><b>Quoting £egendary £ex:</b>" Have you tried staying in the room until she falls asleep? Not paying any attention to her, just staying there."</blockquote>




Yes. I'm a distraction to her and she wants to play.

Quoting V & E's Mom! [25 weeks]:" I'm at my end with my 22 month old. Please excuse my language. But I'm so smurfing tired of fighting ... [snip!] ... help. Bc I'm almost to the point where I want to lock her in her room and just let her CIO then unlock it when she's asleep."

Have you tried laying in her bed with her until she falls asleep? If you are getting too frustrated just let her stay up late. That's what I have to do with DD. I get so aggravated I just let her play until she passes out. You'll still be up late, but at least you won't have to listen to her scream her head off for hours.

Maybe she is over tired? 22 months is a bit early to give up naps. Does she have any kind of rest or down time during the day? Other than that all you can do is stay consistent. Keep putting her in bed. Dont talk to her or engage her just put her back in bed. *hugs*

Quoting V & E's Mom! [25 weeks]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting £egendary £ex:</b>" Have you tried staying in the room until ... [snip!] ... paying any attention to her, just staying there."</blockquote> Yes. I'm a distraction to her and she wants to play."

oh. I did that for awhile w/ my son & just didn't look at him, talk to him, nothing. if he came out of bed I'd lay him down & say if he did it again, I'd spank him. unless he has to pee or something. nightlight helped too.

It kind of sounds like shes over tired. My kids used to do that when they didnt nap, when it was time for bed they would cry & scream & fight sleep. Eventually i had to let them CIO, even though it make me feel like a horrible mother

<blockquote><b>Quoting jordan.ℓeigh✿:</b>" Have you tried laying in her bed with her until she falls asleep? If you are getting too frustrated ... [snip!] ... play until she passes out. You'll still be up late, but at least you won't have to listen to her scream her head off for hours."</blockquote>




I'm not squeezing my pregnant ass into her toddler bed. And thts the issue. I don't want to be up late. I work. Full time. And I have a 2 hour VERY dangerous drive to work. I'm exhausted as it is where I almost fell asleep driving this morning.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jennybananna:</b>" Maybe she is over tired? 22 months is a bit early to give up naps. Does she have any kind of rest or ... [snip!] ... all you can do is stay consistent. Keep putting her in bed. Dont talk to her or engage her just put her back in bed. *hugs*"</blockquote>




She gave up naps like a week before this started. And nap time is the same fight with her. Plus she learned to climb her child gate so that isn't helping keep her in the room for quiet time/nap time nor bed time. She just has been refusing sleep. It sucks. I wish she would still nap. I still try for naps. So does the baby sitter and dad. And no one is successful.

does she have a tv? i would let her watch it till she falls asleep

Quoting V & E's Mom! [25 weeks]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jennybananna:</b>" Maybe she is over tired? 22 months is a bit ... [snip!] ... sleep. It sucks. I wish she would still nap. I still try for naps. So does the baby sitter and dad. And no one is successful."

It sucks but you just gotta stay consistent. She really just sounds overtired which is making it worse for everyone. Everytime she gets out just pick her up and put her back, Say nothing to her just pick up and drop back in.

Quoting V & E's Mom! [25 weeks]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting jordan.ℓeigh✿:</b>" Have you tried laying in her ... [snip!] ... time. And I have a 2 hour VERY dangerous drive to work. I'm exhausted as it is where I almost fell asleep driving this morning."

 

I'm just saying it would be easier than fighting with her for hours. When I let DD play she passes out within the hour instead of screaming for 3-4 hours when I try to force her to go to bed.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Misty Walls:</b>" It kind of sounds like shes over tired. My kids used to do that when they didnt nap, when it was time ... [snip!] ... would cry & scream & fight sleep. Eventually i had to let them CIO, even though it make me feel like a horrible mother"</blockquote>



I want to CIO but as soon as she's on the other side of the gate she is quiet and plays. I can't even get her to CIO unless I'm like holding her door shut. The only way I can seriously think of getting her to even STAY in her room is locking it until she's asleep. Then unlocking it. She figured out the safety door knob protectors. Her child gate. Even if I move it up off the floor where she can't go under it but its just as tall as her, she still climbs it. I've already taken all her toys out. Put a night light in. Everything.

<blockquote><b>Quoting jordan.ℓeigh✿:</b>"   I'm just saying it would be easier than fighting with her for hours. When I let DD play she passes out within the hour instead of screaming for 3-4 hours when I try to force her to go to bed."</blockquote>




I know. I don't mean to be snippy with you or anyone. I know I am being snippy. But I'm going on 6 hours of sleep for 3 days. And I'm frustrated. So apologies in advance.  

I also just got out of the hospital for preterm labor so I'm trying to stay comfortable. I need rest. I need to just.. Give her some benedryl.... Kidding. She randomly started asking for bottles again too. It's not helping. She's been weaned for months! But her baby sitter has a 3 month old so she sees them  

Quoting Olivia's Mommy ♥:" does she have a tv? i would let her watch it till she falls asleep"

that isn't a very healthy habit...