introducing new baby to older sibling

Im due in 7 weeks!! YAY but I have a 3 year old and I'm a single mother and I was wondering the best way to introduce Aleeah to the new baby, should I have her meet her as soon as Im done giving birth and everything has calmed down or should I wait till I come home from the hospital. Also on another note, Aleeah's dad wants to keep her for awhile so I can recover from delivery. Is that a good idea? I don't want Aleeah thinking that this baby is taking up all my time away from her. HOPELESSLY LOST!

I always do it while still in the hospital. And the one on one time with her dad might be good for her while your settling in.

I got giuliana a cabbage patch baby doll that is "from the baby" and I'm going to wrap it up and give it to her when she comes to the hospital to see us. Idk what I'm going to do once I'm home though

Quoting *Dezira*:" Im due in 7 weeks!! YAY but I have a 3 year old and I'm a single mother and I was wondering the best ... [snip!] ... Is that a good idea? I don't want Aleeah thinking that this baby is taking up all my time away from her. HOPELESSLY LOST!"

Well, my twins were super involved in my pregnancy with their brother. They were 25 months old when he was born. They knew the day I left for the hospital that they were going to meet their baby brother that day. They charged the hospital room to meet him. They climed up in my bed and wanted to "hok" him. lol I had a c-section so you can imagine how much fun that was. lol If she knows what is coming, why the worry about the introduction?

It might be nice to let her stay with her dad for a few days. Give you a little one on one bonding time and recovery time. I can't see it as a bad thing. This way you are also rested so when the 3yr old questions and "help" comes along, you aren't so frustrated.

I think after things calm down introduce her and let her go to her dads it'll be easier i think.

Whenever I've known someone who has introduced a new baby to a sibling it's always been in hospital. She's old enough for you to explain that you're going to hospital and that you'll be bringing a baby home to live with you. Staying with her father is a good idea! Then he can bring her to hospital once it's calmed down a bit and you look more like yourself because seeing your mum looking worn out can be distressing for little ones. Then she can meet the new baby with you instead of suddenly having him/her thrust upon her when she gets home  

ya, she does know there is a baby she rubs and kisses it everyday haha, guess she's always been the center of my world and im scared that she'll have to share it now. and being with her dad for awhile I guess wouldn't hurt she is a big daddies girl, guess I'll just miss her so much! thanks you guys!!

Quoting *Dezira*:" ya, she does know there is a baby she rubs and kisses it everyday haha, guess she's always been the center ... [snip!] ... with her dad for awhile I guess wouldn't hurt she is a big daddies girl, guess I'll just miss her so much! thanks you guys!!"

She still will be the center of your world as will this one. I worried if I was going to be able to give enough to my son. hell, I worried about that with my twins too. lol It all works out.

Dean was 3 when jade was born, we waited and picked him up from school with her on way home from hosp. We went home and I ordered pizza and Dean got a present from his baby sister, he was very excited she was *out* but he was over it very fast when he realized he wasn't going to be able to play with her right away lol.

When I had Maks jade was 21 months and dean was 5, they saw me and baby in hosp. Dean was old enough to understan we had to stay there Jade didn't understand and flipped out eachtime, so I kinda wished I waited to introduce them till we were home and I was feeling better, it was hard seeing Jade be so sad and I couldn't do much to help her