Quoting dat uterus tho:" <blockquote><b>Quoting *sarah*jean*:</b>" Nah, no need to apologize, haha. I reread ... [snip!] ... passive woman and I get the impression dad isn't home much. I feel bad for the kid but I feel bad for the kids he hurts, too."
Yeah, that's really hard. I worked in child care for quite a while, and it ended up that those types of kids were my favorites. It's obvious when they need the extra love, and it's crazy how much it helps to be that person for them. Unfortunately, it's not something you can do while hosting a birthday party
I completely understand where you're coming from and wish you the best. Maybe volunteer in her room a day before your party? Maybe if you spend some one on one time around him, you could get a feel for how it would go if you invited him.