Teacher Vent

Thanks Ladies, i really appreciate all the wonderful advice.

That's not ok. My rule as a teacher and in life in general is to start with a positive, give the negative, then follow up with a positive. She needs some schooling in professionalism. I would talk to her about it. Just say you feel like he's not doing anything right and make her feel like a bitch haha

Write her a note and let her know that you don't want to know how your son is doing anymore.
It's not her fault that he's not doing great, at least she's trying and keeping you informed.

Next time she calls, ask her what solutions she has to offer up for these problems. Because just calling you with observations that are completely negative and pessimistic does nothing to help your child learn... Which is her job.

Quoting lolajessup:" That's not ok. My rule as a teacher and in life in general is to start with a positive, give the negative, ... [snip!] ... I would talk to her about it. Just say you feel like he's not doing anything right and make her feel like a bitch haha"

   

We aren't allowed to tell parents any negatives about their kids without having two positives for each negative (not easy with some of the teenagers).

Take it as contructive criticism & work with your child on the things she mentioned. Even if her deilvery isn't the best, the message is still the same & she's asking for you to work with him.

Quoting .Sam.:" Write her a note and let her know that you don't want to know how your son is doing anymore. It's not her fault that he's not doing great, at least she's trying and keeping you informed."

I was honestly planning on writing back her and saying " is there anything rite he's doing?"
I'm tired of all the negative info.
I know my son is doing good i see the improvment at home he's even starting to read small books.

I'd talk to her about it. Face to face. Let her know that it's really bothering you that you don't hear the positives, without trying to criticise her at a teacher. She may not know that her delivery is coming off that way.

Quoting Radame N Angela Robles:" I was honestly planning on writing back her and saying " is there anything rite he's doing?" I'm ... [snip!] ... of all the negative info. I know my son is doing good i see the improvment at home he's even starting to read small books."

It seems like he's shutting down and behaving badly when he gets to school though. Have you considered trying homeschooling since he's doing so good at home but not in a classroom? Everyone learns differently and it's possible that his needs aren't being met at school.

Quoting Destinite:" Take it as contructive criticism & work with your child on the things she mentioned. Even if her deilvery isn't the best, the message is still the same & she's asking for you to work with him."

This! and i do and I've been working really hard with him and i make sure that when there isn't something he knows how to do i tell him its ok, we will keep working, or if there is something that he does know i always give hime positive feed back..
the other issue is he is split custody, so what ive worked so hard on get earased when he goes with his father.

Quoting Radame N Angela Robles:" This! and i do and I've been working really hard with him and i make sure that when there isn't something ... [snip!] ... feed back.. the other issue is he is split custody, so what ive worked so hard on get earased when he goes with his father."

That's tough on kiddos. Just keep doing what you are doing & I agree with the other Mamas about speaking with the teacher face to face. Good luck & hang in there!

Quoting .Sam.:" It seems like he's shutting down and behaving badly when he gets to school though. Have you considered ... [snip!] ... good at home but not in a classroom? Everyone learns differently and it's possible that his needs aren't being met at school."

i have but his father thinks its ridiculos idea, and i know with a newborn on the way it is going to be really hard

<blockquote><b>Quoting Radame N Angela Robles:</b>" This! and i do and I've been working really hard with him and i make sure that when there isn't something ... [snip!] ... feed back.. the other issue is he is split custody, so what ive worked so hard on get earased when he goes with his father."</blockquote>

Yes definitely consider her concerns for his learning, but you also need some
Positives. Positive reinforcement with children is going to boost their self esteem. So focusing on what he is doing right is going to motivate him in other areas as well.

Quoting Destinite:" That's tough on kiddos. Just keep doing what you are doing & I agree with the other Mamas about speaking with the teacher face to face. Good luck & hang in there!"

Yea i think its time for the 3 of us (me, father & teacher) to sit down.