Quoting s00nt0b04:" OK so, last night I noticed DH was on his phone a lot more. He's never on his phone at night or a lot. ... [snip!] ... can and will and capable of raising our children without his help (not that he helps a whole lot right now). Advice please. TIA"
From experience being the 2nd girl he is talking to, it looks like he went to her and was whining. And outta discomfort and because she may be a friend, she tried to give pointers and advice. He kept changing the subject and she simply didn't know how to reject him. I don't think she is a concern, but his behavior definitely is. My ex was doing that smurf, so I waited til he was asleep, took his phone and went through it. I paid the bill on it and he stayed at home smurfing women in our bed, so I felt like it was justified.
I would never snoop my current man's phone. I trust him.