Baby Daddy

Kinda just need to rant a bit but opinions are welcome on the situation.

Tonight I called my baby daddy to tell him that I was going to request child support since he has done nothing for our daughter. He started cussing at me and called my aunt's phone (I was using her phone to text him bc he was at work but insisted that i talk to him) and her husband answered and my BD started to threaten him and cussing him out and calling him a redneck smurf. They both threatened to beat the others butt whenever they see each other.
But tonight I also found out that he is dating a girl that is my age and is due the same day as me, though its not his baby. He has told me if i had my previous baby (which isnt with us) that he never would have dated me nor got me pregnant.
He won't tell me where he lives or who he lives with nor will he tell me if he lives with his new GF. Tells me its none of my business, which I believe it is bc it concerns who my child comes in contact with.
It has come to the point where he has told me to stop breast feeding her when she is 6 weeks old so she can come stay with him. I want to get a lawyer and am going to talk to one soon, and obtain full custody of my unborn child before he has the chance to take her from me and run away with her.

Quoting Katy Mundell:" Kinda just need to rant a bit but opinions are welcome on the situation. Tonight I called my baby daddy ... [snip!] ... to one soon, and obtain full custody of my unborn child before he has the chance to take her from me and run away with her."

The daughter that you're pregnant with? What exactly can he do for her now?
Just saying.

Until the child is born it isn't any of your business IMO. Bit he sounds like a loser. Get a lawyer for sure and don't stop breast feeding at 6 weeks.

IMO it is none of your business until your child is born. Its not like your unborn child is going to his house right now. And there's really nothing he can do until the baby is born.

He hasnt bought her anything but keeps saying he's going to and doesnt ask me how me or her are.

Quoting Katy Mundell:" He hasnt bought her anything but keeps saying he's going to and doesnt ask me how me or her are."

That doesn't matter until she's actually here. What would you do if he wasn't in the picture at all? Take care of smurf yourself, right? So do that, and maybe when the baby gets here, things will change. If not, then file for CS.

Quoting Katy Mundell:" He hasnt bought her anything but keeps saying he's going to and doesnt ask me how me or her are."

You're not together. He doesn't need to ask how you are. And she's still in the womb. And you've obviously haven't contacted him about problems. So I'm sure that's why he hasn't asked. My BD never asked. We never talked while I was pregnant.

i send him a message every time i go to the doctor about what the dr says. he wants me to hand over our daughter to live with him and calls me a bad mother bc i wont let him come stay with me while shes little but thats bc im staying with my family and my family doesnt like him for cheating on me while i am pregnant.

<blockquote><b>Quoting Katy Mundell:</b>" i send him a message every time i go to the doctor about what the dr says. he wants me to hand over our ... [snip!] ... while shes little but thats bc im staying with my family and my family doesnt like him for cheating on me while i am pregnant."</blockquote>




Like I said hire a lawyer. But it's still none of your business where he's living until your child is born and he doesn't have to ask how you are because you aren't together. If your updating him at every doctor apt he obviously knows how the baby is doing and that's all that matters.

Quoting Katy Mundell:" i send him a message every time i go to the doctor about what the dr says. he wants me to hand over our ... [snip!] ... while shes little but thats bc im staying with my family and my family doesnt like him for cheating on me while i am pregnant."

You're keeping him updated, so he probably doesn't think he needs to ask. He has no idea what kind of mother you will be because your baby isn't here yet, so tell him to get over it. You do what's right for your baby, not for him.

Quoting Katy Mundell:" i send him a message every time i go to the doctor about what the dr says. he wants me to hand over our ... [snip!] ... while shes little but thats bc im staying with my family and my family doesnt like him for cheating on me while i am pregnant."

You update him so that explains him not asking.
Don't hand your daughter over if you don't want.
He doesn't know what kind of mother you are because the baby isn't born. Let him be pissy.

it is his responsibility and urs to prepare for her. but i would recommend u buy everything save receipts and dont call him or include him in anything that way in court u have more of an advantage. plus if he wants custody or visitation make him pay for it by going to court and establishing his rights do not put him on birth certificate or allow him in room dnt even ask for child support best thing to happen is he is outta the picture he sounds like a douche! record all incidents of threats too and be careful what u say or text him be the civil one. he probably will not even pay child support. the only reason i allow my ex bd to see or talk to his daughter is because he has been there for her i never had to ask for nothing he always provided her with what she needed so thats a father he just would drop off diapers and wipes and randomly gave me money for clothes and anything she needed . good luck

Quoting ♥JoJo my luv♥:" it is his responsibility and urs to prepare for her. but i would recommend u buy everything save receipts ... [snip!] ... a father he just would drop off diapers and wipes and randomly gave me money for clothes and anything she needed . good luck"

Wow. No. It would look worse on her for her not to try to include him. OP, ask his opinion on things, even if you honestly couldn't give a smurf what he thinks. It will look better on you in court, rather than just shunning him out of his kid's life... at least she's giving him a chance. The judge will see that she gave him opportunities that he didn't take, and in return, it'll look better on her.

Quoting ♥Mama Constantine:" Wow. No. It would look worse on her for her not to try to include him. OP, ask his opinion on things, ... [snip!] ... him a chance. The judge will see that she gave him opportunities that he didn't take, and in return, it'll look better on her. "

This!