Why is it bothering me so much?

SOs ex, the only person besides me he had a serious relationship and was intimate with is expecting, about 7 month along. I just found out as we don't talk and I am jealous as hell. They dated on and off for about two years but now she's married to another guy and they've been together for over a year. I just want to go back in time and never found out. We've been trying the entire length of their relationship and haven't conceived. If SO finds out he's going to obsess about it, she blocked him on Facebook and he still loves her, but they were parasitic to each other. He hates and loves her at the same time, but I am just jealous. He doesn't have the "I want to be with her feelings" but he does have the "you were my first" and that just irritates me, even though he can't help it. Anyone ever felt like this?

Let go of the past, there's no point in dwelling on it.

Are you upset that she's pregnant, or that he still has feelings for her? Or both I guess.

Quoting loser mom:" Are you upset that she's pregnant, or that he still has feelings for her? Or both I guess. "

Both, I think I'm jealous she's pregnant because SO still has feelings for her, like it's something she could have given him that it seems I can't.

Quoting Cattails:" Both, I think I'm jealous she's pregnant because SO still has feelings for her, like it's something she could have given him that it seems I can't. "

ahh, I see. I've never really been in your situation, but I know what it's like to be jealous of pregnant women. Do you think your SO will find out?

Quoting loser mom:" ahh, I see. I've never really been in your situation, but I know what it's like to be jealous of pregnant women. Do you think your SO will find out? "

I don't know, she's got him blocked on facebook and they had a reallllllly bad break up so no one around here mentions her.

Quoting Cattails:" I don't know, she's got him blocked on facebook and they had a reallllllly bad break up so no one around here mentions her."

It's probably best if he doesn't. Just give it some time, the jealousy will probably go away. Hope everything works out for you.

I been through that. My hubby had a four year first relationship before me. When we first got together he would always talk about her saying stuff like "she was my first kiss" and they lost their virginities to each other. It bugged the smurf out of me and I was really jelous of her, I even sent her hate mail before. But after a while I didnt really care because I realized I didnt have any reason to hate her and she was the past. And they had a really bad break up to. Me and my hubby been together almost five years now

Quoting £egendary £ex:" Let go of the past, there's no point in dwelling on it. "

Same here. Its best to ignore the past like that when it comes to partners.

Hmmm. I'd be looking into the real issue here,that being him still loving another woman while he's with you. That's NOT okay.... Does he ever talk about her? I wouldn't want to have a child with someone that has feelings for another woman.

Quoting Kati Iss Rollinn:" Hmmm. I'd be looking into the real issue here,that being him still loving another woman while he's with ... [snip!] ... NOT okay.... Does he ever talk about her? I wouldn't want to have a child with someone that has feelings for another woman. "

He never talks about her, and it's not that he is in love with her and would ever want to be with her, but he has the "I loved her" feelings. Kind of an ex he never let go.

Quoting Cattails:" SOs ex, the only person besides me he had a serious relationship and was intimate with is expecting, ... [snip!] ... but he does have the "you were my first" and that just irritates me, even though he can't help it. Anyone ever felt like this? "

It sounds like your relationship needs a lot of work before you bring a child into it. He still loves her and you're trying for a baby? It's bothering you this much because you don't have what they had. She's happy, she's obviously moved on, and both of you need to as well.

Quoting Cattails:" SOs ex, the only person besides me he had a serious relationship and was intimate with is expecting, ... [snip!] ... but he does have the "you were my first" and that just irritates me, even though he can't help it. Anyone ever felt like this? "

Totally get it. But I'm the male as opposed to the female. She's been my one and only and she was with someone before me who I know she still pined for. It's a smurffy feeling. She says that she doesn't feel that way, but when she moans HIS name during sex and then denies it.......sigh. Smurffy.

Quoting JohnSilverSmith:" Totally get it. But I'm the male as opposed to the female. She's been my one and only and she was with ... [snip!] ... She says that she doesn't feel that way, but when she moans HIS name during sex and then denies it.......sigh. Smurffy."

Oh, now he's never done that. If he said her name during intimacy.... I don't know, I'd question where I stood. You can't really "help" that, but wow, sorry.

Quoting Cattails:" Oh, now he's never done that. If he said her name during intimacy.... I don't know, I'd question where I stood. You can't really "help" that, but wow, sorry. "

Yeah. Great, huh?