Teacher picking on child?

My nephew is 5 and in kindergarten. He went through 2 years of pre-school, never had a problem. He has been going to school since August and has gotten green smiley faces in his daily folder EVERY day since. He is in speech/occupational therapy at school and at a clinic because he is delayed in some areas. But he's learning and loving school.

There was a little boy in his class, Sam, that was bullying him. This little boy called him stupid, pushed him off the jungle gym which he ended up with a mild concussion later that evening, told my nephew that he couldn't play with Sam because he was wearing a jacket and not a hoodie. My sister, his mother, went up to the school and spoke with the teacher about it. The teacher pretty much told my sister, "Well....I just can't believe that. Sam is just so quiet in class." but agreed to separate Sam from my nephew. Pretty much calling my nephew a liar.

EVER since then, my nephew has been getting red marks in his folder. He's gotten 3 in the past 2 weeks. It doesn't make sense. He was a perfect student......until he comes forward about being mistreated by another kid.

Today, he got a red mark because the teacher decided to bring up guns in class and how you're not supposed to talk about them. So, then, my nephew told his friend that his daddy was going to get him a gun for hunting when he got older and went to the hunters education class. The note in his folder reads, "Discussed guns with students in class. Can't talk about them in school. Then, he started talking about getting a gun. This is becoming a problem. Talk to him. Thanks."

Uhh...Lady, if you hadn't brought up guns, he never would have said anything about a damn gun. It's like telling a 5 year old about chickens, and then expecting them not to say anything about chickens. And how exactly is ONE COMMENT "becoming a problem" as if he's been talking about it constantly?

I understand kids will be kids and kids will have bad days at school, but to see my nephew who usually LOVES school so visibly upset because he doesn't understand why he's in trouble...really pisses me off.

What do you think?

Maybe it wasn't one comment, maybe it wasn't the first time he's talked about guns. Honestly, a 5 year old should not be interested in any gun besides a toy.

If the teacher brought up the subject of guns then they should be open to discussing the subject. If I was the mother I would be bringing that folder up and asking them to explain the red mark. And the "Thanks." at the end seems condescending.

Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:" My nephew is 5 and in kindergarten. He went through 2 years of pre-school, never had a problem. He has ... [snip!] ... LOVES school so visibly upset because he doesn't understand why he's in trouble...really pisses me off. What do you think?"

i would have a talk with the teacher....if that doesnt work i would go to the principle. i have read many cases where teachers bullied the student. i saw a video of a teacher bullying special ed kids. it is increasing these days and its awful. im not sure whats going on but nip it in the bud now

I would set up an appointment with the teacher so your sister can voice her concerns to the teacher.

Quoting Supafly★:" Maybe it wasn't one comment, maybe it wasn't the first time he's talked about guns. Honestly, a 5 year old should not be interested in any gun besides a toy. "

The kid was talking about it when he got older, not like he wanted one now. I've seen 7 year olds out using hunting guns made for their age around here, it's not uncommon in some areas.

OP, it does sound like she may be singling him out... maybe the mom should have a conference with the principal and the teacher, see what's going on.

Quoting Supafly★:" Maybe it wasn't one comment, maybe it wasn't the first time he's talked about guns. Honestly, a 5 year old should not be interested in any gun besides a toy. "

It seems like something normal to the family. The child was also talking about Dad hunting.

Quoting ★Bαtgirl:" The kid was talking about it when he got older, not like he wanted one now. I've seen 7 year olds out ... [snip!] ... she may be singling him out... maybe the mom should have a conference with the principal and the teacher, see what's going on. "

Hmm, you're right. And I agree with the last part. I think his mother should explain why he's so excited about the hunting gun.

Quoting Supafly★:" Maybe it wasn't one comment, maybe it wasn't the first time he's talked about guns. Honestly, a 5 year old should not be interested in any gun besides a toy. "

But it was one comment. If he had said anything about it before, she would have written it in the folder.

But he's a boy and he's interested in hunting. I can't blame him for that. We live in the South so...Many, many people...Especially men..hunt. So, he hears about it, sees it on the hunting channel. It's not something he runs around talking about. He doesn't talk about getting guns and shooting people..or even shooting things. He's the same way with fishing. A new fishing pole was number 1 on his Christmas list. He's not getting a gun anytime soon, though.

But I understand not talking about guns in school. It shouldn't be allowed. But...What's the point in bringing it up and then saying "SHH, DON'T SAY THE WORD GUN!!"?

Quoting ★Bαtgirl:" The kid was talking about it when he got older, not like he wanted one now. I've seen 7 year olds out ... [snip!] ... she may be singling him out... maybe the mom should have a conference with the principal and the teacher, see what's going on. "

    

I would set up an appointment with the teacher and principle. So that way nothing can get turned around and have it all out in open so problem can be fixed.

Quoting Supafly★:" Maybe it wasn't one comment, maybe it wasn't the first time he's talked about guns. Honestly, a 5 year old should not be interested in any gun besides a toy. "

Maybe other kids are raised differently? We're a gun loving family and have a safe full. My 4 year old has known about guns his entire life, knows the dangers, and has an app on my mil's kindle that lets you fire, reload and do other things with them.. NOTHING wrong with a kid wanting to take hunters Ed later and get a gun when older to hunt.



It was wrong of the teacher to bring it up and then scold the kid.

Quoting Tiger Lily ♥:" But it was one comment. If he had said anything about it before, she would have written it in the folder. ... [snip!] ... in school. It shouldn't be allowed. But...What's the point in bringing it up and then saying "SHH, DON'T SAY THE WORD GUN!!"?"

But you can't be sure. Like the others say, I think his mom should get more answers by having a meeting with the teacher.

Quoting Hoot.:" Maybe other kids are raised differently? We're a gun loving family and have a safe full. My 4 year ... [snip!] ... take hunters Ed later and get a gun when older to hunt. It was wrong of the teacher to bring it up and then scold the kid."

^ Agree

Quoting ★Bαtgirl:" The kid was talking about it when he got older, not like he wanted one now. I've seen 7 year olds out ... [snip!] ... she may be singling him out... maybe the mom should have a conference with the principal and the teacher, see what's going on. "

That's what I'm feeling. My sister is considering taking him out and homeschooling for a few years, because he DOES have to leave school 2 times a week for therapy. But honestly...It's best for him to stay in school. He loves it. I'm thinking maybe switching schools, if the issue isn't resolved.

Unfortunately, my sister is kind of...a push over. She doesn't really get firm, so I may go up to the school with her for some motivation and support. The problem needs to be fixed and discussed with the principal. If the principal won't fix the problem, then we will see about other schools.

Oh AND....Guess who walked my nephew up to the office today when he was checked out for therapy? Sam. It's all kind of......ridiculous.