What do you ladies think?

Ok so if you haven't read my prev post here is a little background. I had my son on 11/9 on 11/13 I found out my SO had been cheating for at least a month when I got a friend request on FB from the female he was cheating with. He had called it off with her about a week before our son was born(she confirmed this in a phone conversation she doesn't know I could hear). Said she was mad because he wanted to work things out with me. Anyway so since all of this blew up I told him we were over. After thinking about it I decided I wanted to try to fix our relationship. So we did a lot of talking about how our relationship went wrong and what it is we both want. He said he loves me and wants our relationship and that he cheated out of frustration. Anyway so for the past week I've been at his house(we haven't lived together since August, long story) and my mom texted me today and asked me if I was ever coming home or was just moving in with SO. Here is my problem, every since I found out he was cheating he has been very apologetic BUT wont really talk to me about where we are in our relationship. I've been through his phone, email, and everything else and I've seen no contact with the other girl. In my opinion I'm the one with the final say so because he says he wants this but he cheated and Im still not sure if I can get over it. So every Monday he goes to see his other kids and when he was getting ready to leave earlier I was also packing up mine and my kids things. He asked me what my plans were for tonight and I asked him what he wanted me to do. He said he would call me when he was on his way home so I could just come back. Everything has been good this past week, no arguing, even some of the playful fun side I used to see from him. I don't want to get my hopes up but from what you see here does it seem like he really is trying to make this work?

There's never an excuse for cheating. Honestly? I think he'll cheat on you again.

I think you selling yourself short. More time you waste on a cheater is the less time you could be holding out for someone better. I know this from experience  

That "once a cheater, always a cheater" thing is bullsmurf. People make mistakes. Giving him a second chance shows that you are mature and forgiving...but changes don't happen in a week. With time and perhaps some counseling, things could work out. I say give it a go. But don't let him take advantage of your vulnerability and love for him. If he blows it this time, let him go.

Quoting sταrry skies:" There's never an excuse for cheating. Honestly? I think he'll cheat on you again."

yeah, once a cheater always a cheater.

you were pregnant with his child and he was off with another girl?   that's a deal breaker for me...

That saying once a cheater is always a cheater is bunch of crap if you ask me. Me and my now husband had problems in beginning of our relationship and once we both agreed to fix it and move on we havent had any problems in 4 years and he proves to me everyday why I'm glad that I gave him chance. Everything can fixed you wont forget it but it does get easier with time. As long as you both have same goals and plan anything possible.

Quoting Alissa McKeighan:" That "once a cheater, always a cheater" thing is bullsmurf. People make mistakes. Giving him a second ... [snip!] ... give it a go. But don't let him take advantage of your vulnerability and love for him. If he blows it this time, let him go."

Sticking your dick in another chick while your GF's pregnant is slightly more than a mistake.

Honestly more then anything it would depend on him more than anything. If he is truley willing to work things out I think he would be willing to jump through hoops until you are secur enough with him, but if he acts like he don't understand why you still bring it up then he is not sorry

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tiffany Knickerbocker:</b>" Honestly more then anything it would depend on him more than anything. If he is truley willing to work ... [snip!] ... until you are secur enough with him, but if he acts like he don't understand why you still bring it up then he is not sorry "</blockquote>


Exactly.

how long after you found out he was cheating you went back?

<blockquote><b>Quoting Radame N Angela Robles:</b>" how long after you found out he was cheating you went back?"</blockquote>




Well she found out 11/13/12 that he was cheating. And shes already back.. So what maybe a few days after? Seeing as they've been good for a week now..

Quoting *Amo a Mis Nenas*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Radame N Angela Robles:</b>" how long after you found out he ... [snip!] ... that he was cheating. And shes already back.. So what maybe a few days after? Seeing as they've been good for a week now.."

That was totally enough time to test him.

Quoting *Amo a Mis Nenas*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Radame N Angela Robles:</b>" how long after you found out he ... [snip!] ... that he was cheating. And shes already back.. So what maybe a few days after? Seeing as they've been good for a week now.."

oh wow, yea i dont think OP gave him enough time to be like wtf did i do, you were back with him after you found out he cheated on you, honestly i think he would do it again.. i mean he was with her a whole month and before that he perfectly planned a bogus excuse to get you out his house.. i wouldnt trust him

<blockquote><b>Quoting sταrry skies:</b>" That was totally enough time to test him."</blockquote>




Was that supposed to be sarcasm?

I might be a bit biased here from family experience (my aunts first husband had two other children to other women soon after she gave birth to my special needs cousin). I think any man who would cheat, let alone have a month long relationship, with another woman while their spouse is pregnant deserves to be kicked to the curb.
Oh and I don't believe cheating is ever a mistake, not unless he fell over and his dick slipped in her vagina constantly for a month.