Quoting Disney Mamma:" <blockquote><b>Quoting kthx.:</b>" SO has had the same job for 4 years and only recently ... [snip!] ... if he even found me attractive anymore. He said yes and told me that I wasn't helping. I just want my DH back to normal!!!"
This sounds 100% like my SO. And I kept getting frustrated with him... because I felt stupid when I would try, and he'd shoot me down. I felt ugly... unwanted.
That is not the case at all! He loves you, and he obviously cares about pleasing you or he wouldn't be talking about going to a doctor. Give it time. Buy a toy and wait it out ;)