I don't know how I feel about my marriage anymore. I've only been married for less than a year and I already am losing that desire or "spark". Like, I love him & appreciate him for what he does for me, but I don't really ever feel like having sex anymore..sometimes I dread it. We always fight, mainly because I'm crabby or tired or stressed...and I feel bad for him..but it doesn't stop. When should I call it quits, if not for me, for his sake?
Take a break. Get out without the baby, without SO, spend some time to yourself. That is the biggest thing when I start getting like that with my DH. We have been married for 2 1/2 years and been together for just over 3. We have had our share of fights and drama and it usually stems from me not getting time to myself where I can just go be me. KWIM?
Give it time. Just because you don't get the bubbly feeling every time your hubby walks in the door anymore does not mean it's time to shred the marriage license. Marriage is a commitment, my true belief is that your relationship becomes so much more like a very deep friendship where sex, lust, desire to be with the other one in that way can lessen but it is such a minor part of the entire MARRIAGE. It makes me so sad how many people just give up before they have truly even begun to try. Plus those feelings do come back and they may leave again, but like I already said, that's a small ingriedent to a fairly complicated recipe. This of course is just my opinion, to each their own.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Elizabeth Gough:</b>" Give it time. Just because you don't get the bubbly feeling every time your hubby walks in the door anymore ... [snip!] ... I already said, that's a small ingriedent to a fairly complicated recipe. This of course is just my opinion, to each their own."</blockquote>
I completely agree with this. I have times where I get overwhelmed and stressed from being with the kids so long and not havin time to just be me. and i breastfeed my daughter so im always atleast with her. when that happens I always tend to take it out on my SO, and we start arguing and I feel distant from him. Just wont wanna be around him period. But we've talked and worked everything out. Now he usually notices when I'm getting like that and tells me to go have some fun. At one point, I did consider leaving bc I was so fed up. But your completely right. Ppl give up way too easy. I'm glad we worked on our relationship instead of me just leaving.